What is Double Penetration?

What is double penetration? Well, it may not be what you think, actually, it probably is if you’re reading this, however, just in case. What is Double Penetration?

‘Double penetration involves inserting two objects into a bodily orifice’

So, it’s not just a couple of penises in a vagina? Oh no, there’s a whole permutation of where you can fill up a person with a vagina, anus and mouth. You don’t need to use a penis either. It can be fingers, dildos, butt plugs and inflatable gags. In short, it can be anything that will fill a hole, safely!

How to get going

Any form of play requires some discussion beforehand, and DP is no different. It could be that you are considering two dildos, or introducing another penis, both require a conversation. Being relaxed and in the right headspace is key to a successful scene, so masturbation or light play may help get you there. Every relationship is different so do what is best for you.

What Goes First?

I would say that this a chicken and egg type discussion, however, it’s best chickens and eggs stay away from this topic! Rule of thumb, if that’s where you are going, is that the smallest of the orifices gets filled first. If we take an anus and a vagina for example, the latter is more accommodating so therefore it makes comfortable sense not make the anus more difficult to enter by filling up the vagina first. The two cavities are only separated by a thin wall of muscle and filling one up will more than likely restrict the space in the other. Everyone is different I know, however, best to be safe!

Lube

The use of lube is widely documented and recommended, and DP is no exception when in the genital area. The saying goes, ‘When you think you have used enough lube, add more’ and I would go with that, however, there are two things to consider;

1. Lube is not a substitute for the receiver being relaxed and in the right zone for DP to take place, again we are referring to genitals here.
2. Be conscious of lube cross contamination. If you are using a bucket of lube for anal and vaginal penetration some lube from anal will leak out and depending on the whether your sub is face down or face up will increase where excess lube goes. Have a towel on hand and be vigilant!

It’s Not Like Porn

The scene you watch that contains DP is missing the prep required before hand. Do not be thinking that hammering away is something that happens in 5 minutes of getting your clothes off. Communication, position shifting, and pausing are common musts if you’re going to try it.

DP – A glossary

• Anal and Vaginal
• Mouth and Vaginal
• Double Mouth
• Double Vaginal
• Double Anal
• Anal, Vaginal & Mouth (Thought I would mention it!)

All of the above can include various toys, parts of the body and different partners.

Toys

Do the usual checks regarding water based and silicone lubes with toys. Just make sure the type of lube you use doesn’t destroy your toys. Silicone based lubes are very good for anal due to their slippy longevity, so as long as there are no rubber or silicone toys involved you should be fine. There are also a large number of male and female toys for DP you can use on your own if you wish to experiment!

Parts of Body

Fingers and Penises are the usual suspects, however, toes and tongues cannot be ruled out I guess! Always make sure your nails are trimmed, or if you have long nails be very careful. Latex gloves are my preferred option as they put a barrier over my rough and hairy hands, they lube really well and they can be removed for a clean pair real fast. I buy in bulk!

Different Partners

There is not enough space to write about this, so I’ll keep it brief. Firstly, how and where you find other people is your business, as is your management of the relationship, so let’s park that there. Bringing other people into the activity lends a whole new dimension to the event. We have mentioned toys and body parts for DP, and now we have someone(s) else to use as a tool. Playing with others does not necessarily mean it is a romantic love making session, although I accept for some it is. Playing with others allows you to live out your fantasies and theirs in a mature way with good friends. You could have two penises being used with a female sub in all manner of ways as we have described. Likewise, you could have a second penis and sub working on a person with penis. I’m sure you can work out all manner of ways 2, 3 or 4 people could switch it up and around. One thing remains constant, and more so with extra people, is communication. Having a rough idea is not really enough to get going with. If you are not able to articulate a sexual act verbally beforehand then I would suggest you are not mentally in the right place to play with other people sexually.

Without digressing too much, DP with other people does not mean that open conversation will spoil the fun if you need more clarity. Establishing the absolutely NO areas are key, the rest is something that may change as the play goes on. I would also say that if one person wants to stop or take a break that they are allowed to do so without feeling or being made to feel bad about it. What is nice one moment may suddenly not feel that way later on. It’s common sense, however, DP is somewhat extreme in terms of sexual activity, with or without other people. Just keep your eyes and ears open to change and your fun will certainly be doubled!