Did I mention my Master lives 2,500 miles away from me? Talk about safety in distance! Fortunately for me, my PuppetMaster has some experience with an online D/s relationship. A long distance BDSM relationship can work, it just takes time and commitment, just like any relationship. We communicate daily, we play several times a week and He is always available for me if I need Him. We make adjustments as we go, we learn what works and what doesn’t.
Up until now, communication with my PuppetMaster had been via chat on The Safewords Club or through the Training Room board He had set up. Things were about to get real. Names had been exchanged but the time had come for me to truly decide if I was going to move forward with this relationship. (I know, you thought it was a done deal didn’t you?) I had only “known” this man for a few weeks, and if we were going to move forward, He would need to have my full name, address (to mail me packages) and phone number (for texting and calling.)
For me, this was the “all or nothing” moment; I chose all. I want to be very clear, at no time did PuppetMaster push me for any details or information about myself, or ask me to do anything I was not ready to do or comfortable doing. He once made the comment in chat that His puppet gave Him way more trust than He had had a chance to earn. I took a leap of faith, and I have not regretted it. My Master sent me several packages over the next week. These contained items that He would teach me to use as we played together.
I had completed my first assignment and sent my Master links to panties, which He approved, and I had ordered. Our first play session was scheduled for four days after our official announcement of M/s. I had received my new “slut” panties and my Master had informed me I would be performing a fashion show for Him. He had sent a specific type of clothespin (these will be referred to as pegs from here on) that He liked because they had a rubber grip which made them grip the skin more firmly than wooden clothespins.
We had previously discussed video calls, and I had asked to hold off on those, but as I said, I chose all, so any limits or reservations I had prior were now removed. I asked to play via webcam and my Master was delighted. A time was set, I was given a list of items to have ready, and I was to wait for my Master’s call wearing only a robe. I admit to being terrified. I had no idea what to expect, and I was about to play for a man I barely knew, exposing my body to Him in any way He wanted.
My hands trembled as I did my hair and my makeup. I set up my phone on a ringlight tripod, put on my robe, knelt on the floor, and waited. When my Master called, I answered, kneeling before the camera. I was shaking so hard I’m sure He could see it and hear it in my voice, but I did not let it show in my actions. My job was to please my Master, and that was not done by hiding myself, being shy or timid. This was what I wanted. I had asked for this play session and when my PuppetMaster ordered me to stand and remove my robe, I did so with no hesitation. I am His SexPuppet. My body is His plaything, and play He did. I proudly photographed my bruises the next day and texted them to Him. I call them my trophies.
Other packages contained rope, cuffs, chains, connectors, nipple suckers, and an app controlled clit stimulator called a Ferri, which my Master can control from His phone. My PuppetMaster has a lot of fun with that particular toy. I have learned to bind my own breasts using rubber bands and sports tape. I have learned how to tie knots so I can easily attach and remove ropes from my bed. I have cuffs and chains that are long enough to allow me to cuff my wrists and ankles to the ropes. I can tie a simple crotch rope. Using the cuffs, chains and connectors that I have, my Master can design endless ways to bind me for His pleasure. We played three times my first week as CruelsSexPuppet.
There are are downsides to being long distance, even in a relationship that isn’t emotionally based. My Master has to pay very close attention during play time because He is not in the room with me. He has to be alert for any signs of a medical problem requiring assistance. All setup and cleanup fall on me. I have found that the setup helps me move into my submissive mindset, and I enjoy getting things prepared. Cleanup isn’t as fun; after several mind blowing orgasms, who wants to hop out of bed and start putting things away?
We are limited in the scenes we can play and the bondage we can do since it must always be something I can get into and out of by myself. And the most obvious are the physical limitations. I can see and hear my Master, but I cannot feel His touch. He can own me, but He cannot touch me; He can possess me, but He cannot taste me. I am His, but He cannot have me.
This is the third in a series of posts which follows the training of Cruel’s Sex Puppet.
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Thank you for this insight into long distance BDSM. I believe there must be a huge level of trust between two people to engage in it, and I can feel from every word the trust you have in your Master, which is really beautiful. I hope one day you get to meet in person.
~ Marie
Hi Marie. Thank you for reading and commenting. I think trust is a huge requirement for any D/s relationship, but definitely for one where two people don’t have the option of meeting in person and getting to know each other. I gave my Master my trust before He had earned it, but He has proven that it was not misplaced every day since. We will actually be meeting next month and I can not wait. That should be a great blog post!
csp
Thank you for sharing about your long-distance M/s dynamic! This was VERY interesting to me. I am in an on-line D/s dynamic, but our relationship is not sexual in nature (we are both married). He dominates my time, closely monitoring my To-Do list, gives me assignments, and controls my reading/pod cast list. We have been together for about four months and even though it is strictly on-line, it is incredibly fulfilling. We also decided to reveal our true identities to one another, but he hasn’t made use of the mailbox yet. I really appreciate you sharing this post! I hope you’ll write more as your dynamic develops.
Hi nora, thank you for reading and for your comment. I am glad you enjoyed it. This is an ongoing series about my training as a new submissive so there will be many more adventures to come. If you haven’t already read the first two, you can follow this link to find them: https://thesafewordsclub.com/categories/exploring-dominance-and-submission/adventures-of-a-new-submissive/
I’m glad that you find your dynamic fulfilling as well. There are so many ways that this can work for people, I’m happy to be sharing one more example of a non-traditional dynamic (is there such a thing as traditional in BDSM?)
csp
Thank you, csp! I will definitely check out your articles. XOXO ~ nora
Hi,
I have been in a online D/s dynamic since 10/2019. I guess I could say it’s been very difficult the last six months. The last week, I have not even…….can’t even write about it. 😥
I have enjoyed reading your writings CruelSexPuppet. The last bit of this one really resonated with me, that I felt compelled to write and say that.
Nonya
Hi nonya, thank you for reading and commenting. I’m sorry to hear things have been rough, especially the last week. I have had those even in my short time frame and it sucks, more so because the person you need to comport you isn’t close by to do so.
I’m glad you have enjoyed the blog posts and that you have connected with pieces of them. Thank you for taking the time to let me know. I hope you will continue with me on my journey.
csp
This was a beautiful post to read. I am enjoying reading your journey so far. You present in SWC chat as really confident and experienced. It was nice to read another side to you. Looking forward to reading the next posts 🙂
Thank you hana. I am definitely not experienced and while not always confident, I try to work my way through it. But I am not ashamed to show my vulnerable side. In fact, you will be seeing more of it soon. Thank you for reading and commenting.
csp xx
Hi, I really enjoyed reading your story, Ma’am and I like to play online. I agree that it can be very erotic but has limitations. You can own a companion but not have them, which to a degree is also very arousing. I can tell that you have given yourself, with distance it takes more self discipline I feel, it’s easier to drop the ball so need to be on top of everything. But the pros very much out weigh the cons. Glad you found a great puppet master.
Hi Shayne, thank you for reading and commenting. Are you currently in an online relationship? It can be challenging but I am lucky that my Master has thing well under control and keeps things running smoothly. Distance does require more discipline as well as more trust. He has only my word that I do what He says. And yes, I am very lucky to have found such am amazing Master. I hope you will continue to follow my journey each week.
csp
Hi CSP, You already know how proud I am of you for putting yourself and your D/s relationship out there for us all to read about and enjoy. I know all too well about having limitations as to what can be done and at times feeling insecure. I want to be all that Master James could want but you know I have a certain downfall. I love how you were able to jump all in from the get go and I admire who you are and the Beautiful Submissive I am seeing bloom right before my eyes. I know it can be hard in any relationship and long distance can have its own challenges but with patience and understanding it can work out well for all parties. I look forward to the next blog as I can feel it brewing in you…VL
Thank you vl. You were my first contact when I came to The Safewords Club, do you remember? I was asking whether it was appropriate to buy your Dom a birthday present. Who would have thought I’d be here a few months later. You have always been my biggest cheerleader and that has helped me through so much. The submissive you see is here mostly because of your encouragement to stay and explore my feelings. And you do not have a downfall. We each have a challenge that we are battling to overcome. Thank you for your friendship and your support.
csp xx
I do remember when we met and you wanting advice on the birthday gift. I am so happy you chose this site to explore and find answers and I am grateful we met. I could sense that you were made for this while you had doubts. We asked each other questions and shared many stories. I knew you would find yourself and discover the beauty of D/s.
Very nice story CSP. Hope you get all you want and more from your relationship. Please keep us posted on how things are going for you 2.
I’m glad you enjoyed. I post a new blog each week. You can catch up on past blogs and follow new ones at this link:
https://thesafewordsclub.com/categories/exploring-dominance-and-submission/adventures-of-a-new-submissive/
csp