sex/swinger's club

When Reality becomes Fantasy

In the words of my Sir. SX Reality… So, we plucked up the courage to visit the sex/swinger’s club for the third time. Full of excitement and anticipation we drove to the venue, both full of nervous tension. On arrival we assured each other that we were both still 100% up for it, although deep […]

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self reflection

Self Reflection. Me?

One would assume that having been in a D/s relationship for a fair few years now I would have a good grasp on where I am with myself.  Well the faux surprise is that I didn’t, until today.  Missy and I have been discussing her needs and specific kinks that press her buttons, or more […]

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Holidays

Holidays are coming

Yay, holidays are coming but wait…  Usually we have a couple of afternoons to ourselves each week, to do what we want, be as noisy as we like, but with the school holidays comes a temporary stop to our afternoon fun.  A 6 week summer school holiday is a long time to tone down the […]

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safeword

Always have a Safeword

A lot of our play is impact play so, for us, a safeword is important to be able to stop play. Having said that I can only think of 1 time when it has been used by me. To be honest, on this occasion, I knew my head was not in the right space even […]

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bondage

Tell Me About … Bondage

Bondage is a huge part of our play. I like the feeling of excitment, nervousness and freedom that runs through me all at the same time. The excitement because I love this sort of play, nervousness because I don’t know exactly how or what we will play with and the freedom to let go when […]

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Accessories and Mindset - image from Bijoux Indescrits

Accessories and Mindset

The theme for our topic chat this week is accessories and mindset. This really goes further than just thinking about what we wear as part of play, to tapping in to how accessories can make us feel. Sometimes certain things will bring with them a particular memory and trigger a feeling based on how they […]

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Primal play – bite me

Odaxelagnia is identified as a sexual paraphilia or kink whereby one experiences sexual pleasure and arousal from biting and/or being bitten. Odaxelagnia is sometimes associated with sexual vampirism but, generally, most forms of sexual biting do not tend to draw blood for obvious infection risk reasons. Apparently, human saliva contains at least 50 species of bacteria, and […]

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