It is not unusual to have people say it must be easier beginning D/s within a long term marriage. I believe that may be true for some but not all….
D/s Discussion / Foundations / 8pm-9pm BST
What is the most important part of your D/s relationship? Let’s talk specifics. Meet in the lounge from 8pm: new members always welcomed.
Topic Chat / D/s Myths / 8pm-9pm GMT
So often we compare ourselves to what we think we need to be in order to fit in with the idea of what a Dominant or a submissive really is….
Topic Chat / Hot Seat: HL & Missy / 8pm-9pm GMT
As suggested by PS and gem, our newest feature is a member Q and A session. Tonight HL and Missy are in the hot seat so come and ask them…
Topic Chat / Why not What / 8pm-9pm GMT
This week we are sharing thoughts not just on what we do, but on why we do it. There can be a tendency to rush to try all things kink…
Topic Chat / Managing Edge Play / 8pm-9pm GMT
This week we ask how those of you who use Edge Play for fun do it safely. What scenarios can you share, experiences, suggestions and advice for people new to…
Topic Chat / Respect / 8pm-9pm GMT
This week is all about respect. We know that this is one of the foundations of a D/s relationship, but how can you build respect into your dynamic? How do…
Topic Chat / When play goes wrong / 8pm-9pm GMT
No matter how much you plan or how experienced you are, sometimes play just doesn’t go as you expect it to. How do you manage the feelings this creates and…
Topic Chat / Adding an Edge / 8pm-9pm GMT
When kinky play becomes the norm, how do you add an edge to keep up the excitement and thrill? How do you use dialogue and the element of surprise to…
Topic Chat / Romance / 8pm-9pm GMT
February is meant to be the month of romance so the topic today is how you live within a power exchange but still keep things spontaneous and romantic. Is this…
Topic Chat / Physical Health and D/s / 8pm-9pm GMT
Tonight we are talking about physical health and D/s. How do physical health challenges and limitations affect people and how do you manage and work within them? Are there ways…
Topic Chat / Mental Health and Wellbeing / 8pm-9pm GMT
Tonight we are talking about Mental Health and Emotional Well Being. How do such challenges affect people and their D/s? What can you put in place in your D/s to…
Topic Chat / Oral Sex / 8pm-9pm GMT
What part does oral sex play in your D/s? Is it simply a type of play or has it come to mean more than that? From fellatio to cunnilingus to…
Topic Chat / Sensation Play / 8pm-9pm GMT
Tonight we are talking about sensation play, including using pleasure and pain as sensation, the pluses and minuses of temperature play and the impact of sensory deprivation. Join us in…
Topic Chat / Pre-Play Planning / 8pm-9pm GMT
Yes it’s PPP! Pre-Play Planning. Today we discuss what activities take place in your relationship before play and what expectations there are. Getting both of you into the right head…
A SafeworD/s Club Chat Night
Twice a week we have a chat here on The SafeworD/s Club, it’s a bit like a munch really, an informal gathering of like-minded kinky folk. We do have topics…
Topic Chat / Hogmanay Live / 8pm-9pm GMT
Clearly many of us are out partying hard on New Years Eve, but for those who would rather snuggle up with a nice glass of port and some kinky chat…
Topic Chat / Consensual Non-Consent / 8pm-9pm GMT
What is it that attracts people to scenes and play which involve Consensual Non-Consent. What is the thrill in abduction, interrogation or some sort of forced encounter? Join us in…
Topic Chat / Uniform Fetish / 8pm-9pm GMT
What is behind a uniform fetish? Why is there enjoyment in wearing uniforms? How does it help to support the power exchange? Join us in the Dungeon from 8pm: new…
Topic Chat / Fear / 8pm-9pm GMT
This chat had to be postponed due to site issues on the 27th October Getting with the Halloween theme and our seeming interest in the things that scare us, this…