Inspiration for a posts come from many sources, however, it is always good to read another person’s experiences in which you find reflections of your own life.
WildWestAngel wrote that there are often times when her submission seems to be slipping away from her. The skills required to excel in her day job embrace her personality and it makes it harder for her to be the sub she desires to be. As a result, her Dom sees less of her outward submission and in turn, he too loses focus.
I’m sure that many of you see elements of yourselves in her post. What interested me the most was the statement, ‘laying traps to test the resolve of…’ I see this behaviour in my Missy at times. I imagine it is fuelled by the same frustration that she cannot be as openly submissive as she would wish; this is enhanced by my lack of attention to feed her submission at times and the day job that requires an enormous level of emotional investment and considerable control of her self and those she supports.
I offer no solution to a situation such as this, or condemnation that you are lesser mortals than (possible) Marvel Comic characters such as Super Sub & Dynamic Dom. Sure, we are those characters from time to time, but in life there are bigger things than what is staring back at us in the mirror.
What I am not saying is that it is okay to be lazy and ignore the traps that are out there. If you were out in a forest and a bear trap was set on a public path you wouldn’t stick your leg into it just to set it off. Equally you would not, in good conscious, leave it armed to squish a small fair haired, freckled child. Like D/s, you would discuss your observation with ‘park ranger sub’ and come to a solution how to manage it. (I have no idea where the National Park analogy came from as we do not have bears in the UK, aside from some gay men!)
So well done to WildWestAngel for being honest and reminding me as a Dom that subs do get pissed off, conflicted and annoyed. When under pressure, a sub does not want a Dom to back off, she wants him to up his game and take control so that she does not have to manage the bears at work and, at home!