HisLordship wrote a new post, Layering Communication for a Successful Scene 5 hours, 1 minute ago
Layering communication so that you reveal instructions one by one allows you to lead he scene and take your partner with you, but this is not something that seems to be explained very often. Over the past 10 […]
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Missy wrote a new post, So you want to try rope play? 1 day ago
Rope play is the topic for Tell Me About this week and I realised we didn’t have a post about it on our blog so wanted to put something together. What I have done is to try to collect some resources by way of […]
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Missy started the topic 2. Focus questions for working on Dominant submissive mindset in the forum A DOM SUB WORKBOOK 6 days, 16 hours ago
The second post contains the following reflective questions:
- What things help to access your Dominant or submissive mindset?
- Mental
- Emotional
- Sexual or physical
- What things help to maintain your Dominant or submissive mindset?
- Mental
- Emotional
- Sexual or physical
- What are the barriers to accessing and…
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Missy wrote a new post, Focus questions for working on Dominant submissive Mindset 6 days, 16 hours ago
This post is part of our Dom sub workbook and involves using focus questions to look more closely at Dominant submissive mindset. Mindset, accessing and maintaining it, was one of the areas that came up following […]
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Missy wrote a new post, How to access and maintain a Dominant or submissive Mindset 6 days, 17 hours ago
A mindset is a set of beliefs which affects how you think, feel and behave. People refer to having a fixed mindset where you can often be set in your opinions, or a growth mindset where you are more open to […]
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thebarefootsub replied to the topic Madame Bovary the book for December 2020 in the forum
BOOK GROUP 2 weeks, 1 day agoHiya, we met in the library last Wednesday and discussed Madame Bovary. The conversation is still there, if you wanted to catch up? Venus in Furs is up next. I think on the 3rd of Feb.
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Posy Churchgate posted an update in the group
Book Group 2 weeks, 4 days agoTonight we discussed Madame Bovary – and our conclusion was that she was the ultimate desperate housewife!
The book for month of January is Venus in Furs which touches on the theme of masochism
The book for month of February is Forever by Judy Blume – a coming of age YA novel
The book for March is The Morning After by Lisa Jackson a…[Read more]
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Missy replied to the topic 1. Setting Goals for D/s in the forum A DOM SUB WORKBOOK 2 weeks, 5 days ago
Hi Ellen, these sound like good things to work on. Did you want me to try to think of something to incorporate them or was it more that you would be focussing on these. I am happy to chat over this at any point. missy x
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Missy replied to the topic 1. Setting Goals for D/s in the forum A DOM SUB WORKBOOK 3 weeks, 1 day ago
Hi Ellen. Thank you so much for joining in. I look forward to hearing how it goes. I think that this first task should be a good overview but I have come up with lots that I want to work on. I am happy to create tasks which respond to the things that others want to focus on too as I am pretty much creating this as I go. Thanks, missy x
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Missy replied to the topic 1. Setting Goals for D/s in the forum A DOM SUB WORKBOOK 3 weeks, 1 day ago
When I started the task, I actually had much more detail than I expected. My plan was to post my thoughts on my blog as well as showing them to HL so I have split it into three parts, using the headings as breaks.
Here is part 1: Submissive Traits and Qualities
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Missy started the topic 1. Setting Goals for D/s in the forum A DOM SUB WORKBOOK 3 weeks, 1 day ago
The first post covers three areas and contains the following reflective questions:
What sort of Dominant or submissive are you?
1. What are your Dominant or submissive traits and qualities?
2. What are the traits and qualities you have which can be a barrier to being Dominant or submissive?What do you want from Dominance or submission?
3. What…[Read more] -
Missy started the topic What is the Dom Sub Workbook and how do I use it? in the forum A DOM SUB WORKBOOK 3 weeks, 1 day ago
The Dom Sub Workbook will be a set of posts which contain questions designed to help you to reflect on your Dominance or submission.
Really you should use it in any way that you want. You can follow the tasks and do them all in order, or you can dip in and out. You can post about your progress and share your thoughts in the forums, or on a blog…[Read more]
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Missy wrote a new post, Setting goals for D/s 3 weeks, 2 days ago
So welcome to the New Year and with that comes the thought of what we want to get from it in a variety of ways. For HL and I this involves thinking about personal goals and achievements but also ones for the site […]
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Posy Churchgate posted an update in the group
Book Group 4 weeks, 1 day agoHi Reading Friends – Shall we defer our reading chat 1 week to 6-1-21? I’m a bit behind with completing book.
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MrsK replied to the topic 24. Play with those Christmas Baubles in the forum ADVENT CALENDAR 1 month ago
Merry Christmas!
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MrsK replied to the topic 23. Oh Christmas Tree in the forum ADVENT CALENDAR 1 month ago
I’m late (fashionably?)
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Posy Churchgate replied to the topic 10. Present Yourself in the forum ADVENT CALENDAR 1 month ago
Glorious symmetry missy – I love this image.
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I will be adding this to my D/s resources!
Ooo thanks Brigit. I am not sure how it will go or how often I will add to it. I am trying to do this one now and realise that it is really long so I will break it down into three parts for posting I think. The good news is that I have lots of positive qualities. I have told HL he is a lucky man lol. Missy x
Thats really great Missy. Very logical and thoughtful. Always good to reflect upon yourself & acknowledge changes x
Thanks RM. I am only part way through the process but will keep going. Missy x
This is great! I would have loved this when I was just getting started. I might try to play with it now even. Have you thought about making it an actual workbook? Like with Canva or something similar?
I think I might put it together when I am done, yes. I will see how it goes and thought I would try it out here first. I look forward to reading if you give it a go. Missy x
Great resource and I will try and find the time to think through how I see myself and write my characteristics and goals
No pressure to use it PS but I thought I would share anyway. I hope you find it helpful if you do use it. Missy x
I love this missy! I’m wondering if you’d be offended if I wrote a few posts around this concept and linked them back to this page? I think this is very valuable info that could help lifestylers of all types. I also think it could help my journey too 🙂
Hi Mrs K. I wrote it because HL and I were going to do it but shared it in case anyone else would find it helpful so I would be really interested if you did it too. I am also keen for any feedback so that I can improve the tasks to fit others. If you link it back that is great – I made the badge so that people could do that if they wanted to blog their answers. I also started a forum which you probably saw. Missy x
Missy, you have done a wonderful job creating this. I have often chatted with new Doms and Subs and have advised that they seek what interests them and who they are before seeking someone to be their partner. You have taken that and broken it down in a manner that will simplify it for everyone. I am in an online relationship and I find I still have so much to learn. I will take this and break it down for myself. I am lucky to have found someone who is caring, patient and understanding but can push me all at the same time. Thank you Missy for all you do…VL
Thank you so much Vixen. I am glad that you found it helpful but if there are changes needed when you use it then please let me know and I can adapt it as I would like it to be flexible if possible and fit other people too. Missy x