Hi Aussie Girl,
It was lovely to meet you and chat today. I hope that you find it helpful here in terms of learning. And I am so glad that you took the plunge and asked for a D/s lifestyle dynamic. How exciting.
Lovely to meet you. I hope that you will find some people who you can relate to here and who will share their own experience as that is a great way to learn. Please just shout if you have any questions.
This is the place to come if you want to introduce yourself and say hello to others.
Please start a new topic thread with your details and/or have a read of others and leave a reply for them.
If you are looking for a particular group then this might also be a good place to signal that. So for example the topic could be ‘Calling all subs from…[Read more]
I agree with LoveToBeCruel, this is your dynamic so it is about what you want to get from it. Read and research and take the bits you like the sound of and leave the rest – there is no wrong way to do this so find a way that works for you so forget those who preach the one true way. When thinking about goals and rules and rituals we found it b…[Read more]
Hello. My name is missy. I am a submissive married to HisLordship. We live in Scotland in the UK and have lots of children who are mostly grown up now. We started D/s back in 2012 when I asked HL if he would be my Dom. He agreed and yay – here we still are. We started with bedroom only but it was a bit off and on and hard to sustain so in 2014 we…[Read more]
Layering communication so that you reveal instructions one by one allows you to lead he scene and take your partner with you, but this is not something that seems to be explained very often. Over the past 10 […]
Missy started the topic 2. Focus questions for working on Dominant submissive mindset in the forum A DOM SUB WORKBOOK 1 month, 2 weeks ago
The second post contains the following reflective questions:
- What things help to access your Dominant or submissive mindset?
- Sexual or physical
- What things help to maintain your Dominant or submissive mindset?
- Sexual or physical
- What are the barriers to accessing and…
This post is part of our Dom sub workbook and involves using focus questions to look more closely at Dominant submissive mindset. Mindset, accessing and maintaining it, was one of the areas that came up following […]
A mindset is a set of beliefs which affects how you think, feel and behave. People refer to having a fixed mindset where you can often be set in your opinions, or a growth mindset where you are more open to […]
Hi Ellen, these sound like good things to work on. Did you want me to try to think of something to incorporate them or was it more that you would be focussing on these. I am happy to chat over this at any point. missy x
Hi Ellen. Thank you so much for joining in. I look forward to hearing how it goes. I think that this first task should be a good overview but I have come up with lots that I want to work on. I am happy to create tasks which respond to the things that others want to focus on too as I am pretty much creating this as I go. Thanks, missy x
When I started the task, I actually had much more detail than I expected. My plan was to post my thoughts on my blog as well as showing them to HL so I have split it into three parts, using the headings as breaks.
Here is part 1: Submissive Traits and Qualities
The first post covers three areas and contains the following reflective questions:
What sort of Dominant or submissive are you?
1. What are your Dominant or submissive traits and qualities?
2. What are the traits and qualities you have which can be a barrier to being Dominant or submissive?
What do you want from Dominance or submission?
3. What…[Read more]
The Dom Sub Workbook will be a set of posts which contain questions designed to help you to reflect on your Dominance or submission.
Really you should use it in any way that you want. You can follow the tasks and do them all in order, or you can dip in and out. You can post about your progress and share your thoughts in the forums, or on a blog…[Read more]
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