Another video on emotional edge play (consensual humiliation/degradation) by a female domme, Emotional Edge-Play 101 by Ms. Elle X. She’s a BDSM YouTuber I just started following and I really like her stuff.

The PinkKink podcast started this year by two female switches – Princess Rara and Dara the electro kahleesi. They’ve discussed a myriad of subjects from munches to blood play to polyamory.  They both have a little/middle side so things often get giggly. I first heard about them through Loving BDSM and have binge listened to all the episodes be…[Read more]

The Toybag Guide to… series from Greenery Press is good too. Eleven books in the series: wax and temperature play, age play, medical play, erotic knife play, clips and clamps, dungeon emergencies and supplies, playing with taboo, high tech toys (like electro), basic rope bondage, foot and shoe worship, canes and caning. They are each about $9 U…[Read more]

It is a rush for my Sir to have me consent and endure things that I don’t necessarily want to do. And I may not enjoy the activity but I enjoy pleasing him. I also think it’s a rush for him for me to enthusiastically consent to many of the fun activities we do, things that our vanilla neighbors would probably think were dirty and depraved. An emo…[Read more]

Welcome Hana, nice to meet you.

I don’t have much personal experience because my orgasms are weird but this is what I’ve observed said by other women. If women are edged the orgasm when it comes is stronger, even if that’s days later. I’ve heard that orgasming frequently tends to keep most women in a higher state of arousal in general.

Welcome Helena, nice to meet you.

Welcome Hananoki, it’s nice to meet you.

There is an awesome book called the The Big Book for Littles: Tips & Tricks for Age Players & Their Partners by Penny Barber. It covers littles/middles and caregivers/bigs, ageplay (role play) and caregiver/little as a lifestyle, activities, punishments, etc. It’s pretty comprehensive.

“So, how does this dynamic work from that side? I always won…[Read more]

Many different thing could work, find something that will work for the both of you. Here are some suggestions –
Corporal punishment, i.e. spanking, kneeling on rice
Writing lines
Practice fellatio on a dildo
Orgasm denial as suggested above

You two might want to discuss why you dislike giving bjs and address those issue. Then try to find…[Read more]

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You’ve come to the right place. Most on this site are married or long-term D/s couples that started vanilla. We would love to see you in chat.

My suggestion would be to talk with him about this. Find out if he minds you calling him out, if he does maybe the two of you could figure out a signal to let you know you are doing it and he needs you to back off. Also talk about ways for you to be subtly submissive around your kids and community.

I have more common sense and I’m less i…[Read more]

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