Beth [MM]

I was married to him before we became D/s. Maybe try a munch in your local community? Or simply dating and find someone with similar interest? Good luck.

Have you spoken with your current Dom about your feelings, and your desire for a more evolving D/s relationship?

Yes, some of us practice Domestic Discipline.

I agree with Eliza, as  you don’t know him keep your rings. You are not a bad sub for protecting yourself, you would actually be  a good one. You can tell him that’s a hard limit for you, and he should respect that. If he gets angry or upset at you keeping your rings he’s not a good master, he’s more likely a con artist. If you decided to persue…[Read more]

I am very submissive. Years ago my husband tried to get me to take control in the bedroom so I could get my needs met and it was very difficult for me. Since we’ve started D/s he’s ordered me to pleasure him with my body, to show myself off. Basically take control but at his command. It really helped my mindset.

I wrote a blog post about it bac…[Read more]

Hi Secretsensations, welcome.

I’m glad you are no longer in that abusive relationship. “Will a D/s relationship bring back all those terrified abused feelings…?” It might, but it might not. It really depends on your new relationship, how you react to things now, and also how your new dom treats you. A good dom will respect your limits and y…[Read more]

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Our communication has been enhanced. The sex is awesome. We both feel freer to embrace our chosen roles. He gets to be in charge and I don’t have to be; if he wants to delegate he can then I work under his direction.

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I’m glad things are back on track for you two. Mister Man and I feel that respectful, honest communication is key to our happy marriage. I’m glad you and your Sir were able to talk about it and resolve things.

The Safewords Club was created so D/s folks could chat, find other D/s friends, and get support when needed. Feel free to ask que…[Read more]

Sorry I didn’t see this sooner. And don’t worry about the long post , it’s great you are getting your thought and feelings written down.

I’m glad the D/s is helping with your anxiety. I’ve noticed mine has lessened with my husband taking a stronger lead.

Yes, you made a mistake, but we all do, it’s a human thing to do. I do the same thing…[Read more]

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We have a collar changing ritual. I have a day collar, and a night collar that I sleep in. I kneel before MM and ask to serve him, then he changes my collar to fit the time of day. It helps to reinforce our roles. It reminds us of my service to him and his protection and guidance of me.