It is a rush for my Sir to have me consent and endure things that I don’t necessarily want to do. And I may not enjoy the activity but I enjoy pleasing him. I also think it’s a rush for him for me to enthusiastically consent to many of the fun activities we do, things that our vanilla neighbors would probably think were dirty and depraved. An emo…[Read more]

Welcome Hana, nice to meet you.

I don’t have much personal experience because my orgasms are weird but this is what I’ve observed said by other women. If women are edged the orgasm when it comes is stronger, even if that’s days later. I’ve heard that orgasming frequently tends to keep most women in a higher state of arousal in general.

Welcome Helena, nice to meet you.

Welcome Hananoki, it’s nice to meet you.

There is an awesome book called the The Big Book for Littles: Tips & Tricks for Age Players & Their Partners by Penny Barber. It covers littles/middles and caregivers/bigs, ageplay (role play) and caregiver/little as a lifestyle, activities, punishments, etc. It’s pretty comprehensive.

“So, how does this dynamic work from that side? I always won…[Read more]

Many different thing could work, find something that will work for the both of you. Here are some suggestions –
Corporal punishment, i.e. spanking, kneeling on rice
Writing lines
Practice fellatio on a dildo
Orgasm denial as suggested above

You two might want to discuss why you dislike giving bjs and address those issue. Then try to find…[Read more]

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You’ve come to the right place. Most on this site are married or long-term D/s couples that started vanilla. We would love to see you in chat.

My suggestion would be to talk with him about this. Find out if he minds you calling him out, if he does maybe the two of you could figure out a signal to let you know you are doing it and he needs you to back off. Also talk about ways for you to be subtly submissive around your kids and community.

I have more common sense and I’m less i…[Read more]

There is also a Resources subforum here on SWC, with books, websites, blogs, videos, etc.

Submissive training is rather personal, and should (in my opinion) take into consideration the needs and wants of both the Dom and sub. What works for one relationship might not be good for another. I’ve not done nor been asked to do much formal submissive training. Real Service by Joshua Tenpenny might give you some help in figuring out how you t…[Read more]

MM often tells me how much he appreciates me. He shows it in the little caresses he gives me throughout the day. He spoils me often, at least I think so.

Anything can go in your relationship if all parties are agreeable to it. I don’t think it’s topping from the bottom unless it annoys the Dom. You could always talk to him about your desires. He’…[Read more]

We are not a hook-up site so you will need to look elsewhere for someone to discipline you. However, if you’d like to talk about domestic discipline or ask any questions we would be happy to discuss it with you.

Opening doors – either she has to wait while you open them for her or she has to open them for you. My Sir buckles/unbuckles my seatbelt when he’s driving. Pick a side that she should walk on when walking with you and do you want her to be even with you, maybe on you arm, or slightly behind you. Pick a stealthy way to always address you instead o…[Read more]

I second what DW4Sir said. Communication is the key to every good relationship. My husband was uncomfortable at first because he was raised by a strong feminist and it seemed like D/s made me less than him. But we talked about it and he took the time to learn about it. I am just as valued as he is in our relationship, I choose to give him power…[Read more]