This is so helpful. We are still building our dynamic as we are newer to this, but this is what we believe it will look like and work best for us as well. Being married for over 2 decades, kids, and the expectation we’ll be doing this for many decades to come, means there has to be a lot of give and take with both Domme and Sub helping to keep e…[Read more]
My Queen and I have been working on our D/s relationship for over a year. At first we thought a collar was “for others”. But we also struggled to keep the dynamic going as we were just learning and life was distracting. So at one point, thanks to a post on Submissy, I recommended a “high protocol collar time”. We both loved it. It really helped…[Read more]
My favorite (as sub and receiver) is first My Queen’s hand for the intimacy and emotional connection. But of course that’s not long lasting as it begins to hurt her hand more than my ass. Then our favorite is the cane…maybe mostly because of how silent it is compared to the paddles. With 4 kids…not being heard makes top priority!
Queen’s Hubby replied to the topic Who in your vanilla life knows about your D/s and what was their reaction? in the forum DOMINANCE AND SUBMISSION 2 years, 6 months ago
So far no one on my side of life knows. My Queen told one of her friends as she sought out advice and her therapist also knows. We’d both love for all to know, but our job (which is interwoven with so many of our friendships) cause the need to keep this private. It’ll stay that way for the foreseeable future. So far only one child is old eno…[Read more]
Echoing Beth and missy also! It’s about loss of control and vulnerability. Just as the whole D/s dynamic brings emotional vulnerability, bondage brings a physical layer on top of that. It requires a level of trust in My Queen that builds incredible intimacy. In all honesty, we’re new to bondage and still figuring it out.