Google. Search BDSM munch with your state or city (if you don’t live in a small town). But remember privacy is valued, so if by chance you see someone you recognize make sure you dont share that info with anyone.
Consider looking into the BDSM community in your area. Even here in the deep south, the community is active. Look for a munch or something to get started if you are interested. It seems like a better option to go into a situation with everyone knowing whats up… instead of trying to convert someone vanilla.
Ok, so I dont consider myself a little, but I am interested in the subject matter. I see a good bit from the littles, but nothing from the DDs. So, how does this dynamic work from that side? I always wonder if the feelings from the DD side is paternalistic or more of a middle ground between Dom/sub and Master/slave? Does it require more of your…[Read more]
We haven’t really told anyone outright. Our families do not know. My family is very dramatic and would be trying to have him arrested for abuse. His family would tend to be more accepting, but his parents are nearly 70 years old and are not concerned with his sex life (thank God). Some of our friends are aware that we are not vanilla, in that they…[Read more]
It is interesting to me how many relationships I have been in over the years with someone who is more of a Dominant personality than an actual Dom or Domme and how our relationship tended to be more of a D/s sort of thing than I ever realized.
Same for me. Otherwise it was a very short lived relationship. It didn’t take me long to chew them up…[Read more]
I always wear my collar. I never open a door for myself (except to go to the ladies room). I do not assume which chair I am to use when being seated. I always wait for him to pull out my chair. I ask permission to leave the table or to step away from an event for any reason. I do not check my electronic devices. Among other things.
Doms, how do you show appreciation for your sub? Is there anything special that you do once in a while that is solely to show them how amazing they are to you?
And subs, is there anything you Dom does that lets you know they worship the ground you kneel on? Or something you would like them to do?
Out of fairness I feel like I should share…[Read more]
Very late to the original post, so apologies for that.
Love came first for us. We had been married 16 years before I asked to try D/s. I was 35 at the time. The reasons it took that long for me to come around to the idea are many. Mainly trust issues, not necessarily in my Dom but in myself and humanity as a whole. Knowing myself and sexuality.…[Read more]
Wow, its been a while. I haven’t been online in ages, but catchin up I noticed your post Chris. If you are still deployed, try talking about in email. It gives you both time to think about what you want to say, but also doesn’t put either of you on the spot to answer the “right” way. You mentioned flogging. I have found out that I am most…[Read more]
I want to go to a club so bad I can’t stand myself. Im sure it would be for observation only. Like you I know there is no way in hell that my Dom would share me in any way. But I would love to watch otheres scene and to see all the equipment in person.
The intimacy is something that drew me in as well. Along with the absolute requirement of communication. I know there are people who meet online or in clubs and scene together, but I can’t wrap my head around it. I would not be brave enough to share that level of intimacy with someone I don’t trust explicitly. I’m not even talking about the casual…[Read more]
I’m intrigued. Was he part of the lifestyle before? We are about a month in, and neither one of us have any experience so we are figuring it out together. Creating our own protocols and such. For example I do not call him Sir. And key words to signal when we are starting and stopping a scene. I love that we don’t have to do it the same ways…[Read more]
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