Service top. Thanks for that one. New lingo! Went and looked it up. I think most daddy doms would fall into that category to some extent as well. Just remember, S,S&C. beyond that, there is no right and wrong. Just what works for you and what doesn’t.
Video chat. Give her tasks, have her masturbate with you giving instructions for example. Poor behavior can result in not allowing orgasms, or her having to do something she finds unpleasant. Rewards could be orgasams, a new toy, more time with you. The possibilities are only limited by your tame and budget.
Ok, being 2 years and 4 months old… I have no advice to offer. But the question at the end got my attention. Can Doms groom their sub? The term groom in this context for me is somewhat predatory, as in an abuser grooms the victim. Within the tenants of SSC, I’d say no. Because to do so would be manipulative at best, and abusive at worst… and…[Read more]
I also found it to be mostly accurate. The only thing I felt it was off about was the masochistic rating. I think it was too high. I’m nowhere near a pain slut, beyond a little sting it’s not necessarily enjoyable for me…. however, I love the marks and those don’t come from an erotic spanking. I’m willing to suck it up to get the marks, and the…[Read more]
For some reason i didnt see this thread. Almost 6 months later, its probably to late to advise anything. However, communication is never wrong. And the right time and place is anytime and anywhere. Im curious about how this worked out for you, if you are comfortable sharing.
HL, Thank you for this. I as a sub agree with you 100% in regard to the correlation between BDSM and the military (and even gangs). Simply put, when you choose the behavior, you choose the consequence. You meet or exceed the standards set for you and you get the things you want. If you fail, you are punished. Knowing that, provides emotional and…[Read more]
SSC. Partners need to follow that guide, bdsm or vanilla, makes no difference. Communication matters. As women generally we suck at it in regard to sex. And if someone does something you dont like, and you dont communicate that, when he does it to the next girl… you share responsibility for it. Sorry for the late response. And of course this…[Read more]
Ok, so my Dom saw a tiktok that said hold out 5 fingers, then fold 2 down. So depending on which fingers you folded down would let you know if you are a Dom, sub, or switch. He got Dom, I got switch. Im not willing to put much stock into something that basic (but in general personality, i actually agree)… but it made me wonder if there was a…[Read more]
Fantasies need to be shared with your partner. My Doms preference is that I write them down. So you might want to consider that option.
As for keeping things seperate… I’m sure it can be done but we (my Dom/Husband and myself) have not done that successfully. We run a family business together and in all parts of that we are equal. At home we…[Read more]
Ok. I am zero help to you. My experience in D/s is only with my husband, and we had been together for 15+ years before we decided to get into the lifestyle. Maybe some of the people who have been here longer will have some suggestions.
Google. Search BDSM munch with your state or city (if you don’t live in a small town). But remember privacy is valued, so if by chance you see someone you recognize make sure you dont share that info with anyone.
Communication is key. Know your own mind. Limits do not only apply to sex. If you are uncomfortable, consider renegotiating or terminating the relationship, depending on whats going on.
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