Some good points which are helpful in thinking what service might mean in a relationship 🙂

HL, great post and its spot on advice for for this carzy time we are living through. I also feel better that there are others to who find it hard to take their own advice.

Great post. I agree with things being magnified, both the good and the bad seems to be so much bigger. 🙂

Thanks for this great post HL. We are going through some major life changes and these compounded by the virus and some other things resulted in a really intense ‘double-drop’ (simultaneous subDrop and DomDrop). It was a rough place to be and we are both pretty beat up but got some important things that surfaced dealt with so in the end all is better. I hope you and Missy can ride the waves. As they say we are all in this together and that’s a unique situation which is a little freaky but comforting as well. hugs elskling

Great advice here, and something I (we) definitely need to implement over here. Love that you are addressing the next generation too 😉

Rebel xox

Of course the “thing that shall never be spoken of” had me giggling …

Great post HL,

Take care

Sweetgirl x

Thank you HL for writing this for Tell Me About. I do think polite behaviour doesn’t necessarily mean that you respect someone, I’ve spent years being polite to people I have no respect for at all. I think that respect like love can grow and is made up of smaller actions that culminate into a bigger thing… does that make sense?

Stay safe HL

Sweetgirl x

I think you have a point Sweet, and I agree. I enjoyed this post HL.

It is always interesting to see how things are from the perspective of the person who is instigating the play rather then being on the receiving end. You have made me want more needle play though 🙂

This is interesting as I see that it is edge play for u too

Closet pervert? Great reflections if you ask me xx

Sometimes we don’t know what we want until we really think about it. Glad you had such a productive chat, I probably need one too.

Happy New Year HL! I have never known what my Norseman’s kinks are either. In the past he would say, as you, that he likes seeing me get off but as far as his deepest darkest kinky thoughts I have no idea if he has them and less of an idea as to what they are. I communicate mine to him in writing and he acts on them but I’m hoping 2020 will be a year for him to come out more also.

I know MrH struggles with this too… when I ask him to tell me what he likes he just shrugs, which unfortunately isn’t helpful… but I am hopeful that in time he my find a way to verbalize them for me 😊

I think it is really quite common in a couple for one half to follow the other half and use their kinks as a lead. When one is turned in, we both are, after all. 😁😁😁😁
It sounds like your kinks are of the dark variety, not all that uncommon, and certainly not without good company. There are even littles with dark, edgy kinks; dark age play, they call it. I’ve been listening to “Off the Cuffs,” a kinky podcast. I’ve heard quite a few episodes where people share their dark kinks. There’s one called Taste the rainbow with a little whose into dark age play. Also others, not little…
Enjoy your discovery!

It’s a fabulous start…and now that you have begun digging, you can go deeper and deeper. What a ride you can both take on these new realizations!