Hi Trouble.  Your experience is very similar to ours.  D/s headspace in a married 24/7 relationship is challenging.  I struggled badly in the beginning.  Be patient.  Talk openly. He needs to process the emotions and conflicts in his attic.  I have always been protective and giving in a Dom sense.  I needed to give My Girl what she needed not wh…[Read more]

We are fairly new to the D/s dynamic as well, having last year asked My Sir/hubby to consider a 24/7 D/s relationship, including a focus on health and safety, after 38 years together. We have found though that many little habits we have had over the years lean to a D/s dynamic anyway.

Last year was the hardest year, especially for My Sir. Your…[Read more]

We are not too much into rituals and rules as his job is high pressure and when he gets home he does not want any sort of structure like that; he is still  very much a dom.  But 37 years together the whole rules thing just did not work.  I said that to say this, one ritual that organically evolved is that we put our foreheads and noses together an…[Read more]

I thought it was just me. This is looking like a great place to have found.  Our play can get intense like that.  One of our all time favorite games is chase.  Our backyard is big and private (so I will be half naked or wearing some sheer thing with easy access to his favorite parts of me.  I get a head start and he has to catch me.  I am smal…[Read more]

Hi Missy,

Thank you to both you and His Lordship for welcoming Mr C and and I, and for creating such a great site. It was wonderful to find somewhere that is much more down to earth, and that we can relate to both at our stage of our D/s journey and in life. I know it takes a lot of personal time and effort to manage sites like this, so thanks…[Read more]

Hi RM,

It has been great getting to know you this past while. I have loved having you on the chat to share your thoughts and I love your blog too.

Thanks for adding your intro.

missy x

Hi Aussie Girl,

It was lovely to meet  you and chat today. I hope that you find it helpful here in terms of learning. And I am so glad that you took the plunge and asked for a D/s lifestyle dynamic. How exciting.

missy x

Hi FlameMarked,

Lovely to meet  you. I hope that  you will find some people who you can relate to here and who will share their own experience as that is a great way to learn. Please just shout if you have any questions.

Missy x

Hi L2B,

Thank you for adding your intro and encouraging others. 43 years experience – WOW. I looke forward to learning from you.

missy x