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    • #62371

      Hi all,

      This site has already been so helpful and informative to me, so thanks everyone who contributes (special nod to Missy and HL). As far as a bit of an intro…

      I’ve been married for five years and aware of my submissive side (in the bedroom only; we’re not really interested in a 24/7 dynamic at least for the time being) for about two years, although I only recently learned there was a term to define how I have been feeling and what my sexual preferences are. My husband is newer to the D/s concept than I am but he is willing to learn. Outside of the bedroom, our personalities are rather reversed – I’m the dominant, type A, loud person and he’s the reserved, background, analytical type. We have only just begun experimenting as he isn’t super comfortable with being forceful or dominant, and I am just figuring out what I actually enjoy.

      I mentioned “Christian” in the title just because talk of sex, of ANY kind (vanilla or otherwise) is quite taboo in my social circles, so while I am quite committed to my faith I’ve found it rather frustrating that I feel like there’s no one with whom I can talk about what is a very important aspect of my life and marriage. I’m super grateful for this space in which to discuss, process and connect with others who understand.

      We’ve got a toddler and a baby which definitely put a damper on things, but we’re doing our best 🙂

      Looking forward to learning more with you all.


    • #62372
      Sweet (MrH)

      <p style=”text-align: left;”>Hello!</p>
      Welcome to the site.  Very few people are comfortable with or able to discuss their sexual preferences with their real life friends.   MrH and I certainly don’t.

      Here you will find many friendly people who will be happy to answer your questions.   We are a diverse group from around the world.

      Take care


    • #62373
      MJL’s Vixen Lee

      Hello and Welcome to SWC. I think many of us have the same issue of who to trust with such intimate details of our sexual lives. I do hope to chat with you and learn more about you and share about myself. You will find that many of us on here are very open and easy to chat with…VL

    • #62393
      MrC’s AussieGirl

      Hi Eden,

      Welcome ! My Sir, Mr C as he’s known here, and I share a similar story to you. Only we’re much older. We have been married almost 38 years but only began our D/s journey 18 months ago.

      We are also practicing Christians with the same background and problems with talking about sexual things with both ourselves and our friends and family. My Sir sounds similar to yours and our journey with D/s has been slow, as a result of my husband’s gentle nature. He also needed to ratify it with our Christian faith before He could act on many levels.

      I wrote a post about our journey:

      Beginning D/s and finding support

      Feel free to message me if you’d like to chat.







    • #62424

      Welcome to the site!  I’m sure you will learn a lot here, I know we have.

      As for the Christian thing, I’m not religious myself, but I would point out that Christianity commands wives to submit to their husband:

      The Submission of the Christian Wife (Ephesians 5:21-32)

      21 and be subject to one another in the fear of Christ. 22 Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is the head of the church, He Himself being the Savior of the body. 24 But as the church is subject to Christ, so also the wives ought to be to their husbands in everything. 25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her; 26 that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, 27 that He might present to Himself the church in all her glory, having no spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that she should be holy and blameless. 28 So husbands ought also to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself; 29 for no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ also does the church, 30 because we are members of His body. 31 For this cause a man shall leave his father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife; and the two shall become one flesh. 32 This mystery is great; but I am speaking with reference to Christ and the church. 33 Nevertheless let each individual among you also love his own wife even as himself; and let the wife see to it that she respect her husband.


      In any case, yes, it can be hard to talk about D/s with your vanilla friends.  That’s why we have online D/s friends!


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