Discreet ways of showing submission in public


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    • #7452

      Any ideas?

      Anybody wants to share discreet ways of showing submission in public?

      I am considering asking her to ask for permission using: “May I..?” for everything she does when we go out next….

      I am also considering asking her to spread her legs every time she is sitting down…

      Any thoughts? I am after subtle but effective ways of displaying submission in public everyday environments…

    • #7453

      I shall clarify …that I am mainly interested in ways of showing submission in public..for nights out…as a couple or with friends.

    • #7454

      If you’re going out for dinner, I have a few things I can suggest, some sexual and some more mental.

      Regarding purely sexual: Tell her to masturbate in the car on the way to the venue, put a small toy in the glove compartment to show it was planned for (Hunter does this, always fills me with anticipation). Have her wear a remote-control vibrator and activate it when she slips; Use a plug / clips whilst out – you could make her go and apply this during the outing, try secretly putting them into her bag before you leave the house to add surprise; Think about breast bondage under clothing if it is loose; Have her remove her underwear in the loo or under the table and pass it to you (if humiliation is a kink, have her place it on the table for you to take when you chose.) Also, if she is able to make herself orgasm by thinking, you could try that.

      As for the subtler touches: choose her clothes for the evening. Order for her, I love this, don’t even discuss the menu or wine list. Don’t allow her to take her first drink until you have given permission, don’t allow her to start eating before you and (if you’re ok with potential food waste) have her stop eating when you are finished. Can you think of any particularly searching questions you’d like her to answer during dinner? Make a mental list and ask one as she takes a bite of food. If you want to add an element of confusion for her (which will increase anticipation), pay the bill and order coffee, then tell her to get up and leave before it has arrived.

      … just a few thoughts…

    • #7458
      Beth [MM]

      Opening doors – either she has to wait while you open them for her or she has to open them for you. My Sir buckles/unbuckles my seatbelt when he’s driving. Pick a side that she should walk on when walking with you and do you want her to be even with you, maybe on you arm, or slightly behind you. Pick a stealthy way to always address you instead of your name. Ask her for ideas of things she’d like to do/try to be more submissive when out.

    • #7631

      There is now a new post on the blog, written by TA! which gives some more detail about how this works for her and lilith. Discreetly showing a D/s-relationship in public.

    • #7652

      This might be a little Story of O’ish, but many dinners that my sub and I feature a subtle bit of protocol.  It starts with a silver day collar with a small leash ring. If one is looking, even if one doesn’t know what they are seeing, a collar, it is just unusual enough to make someone wonder.

      I prefer her to wear a dress or skirt that is not skin tight – a skater dress is perfect, or a loose wrap skirt.  Anything that she can hitch up when she sits without too much difficulty.  In this way she sits with her bare bottom on the seat and ofter exposes just a little bit of a garter strap. Her legs remain spread throughout dinner.  These are just a few little things that spice up our night and make it special.

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