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Hi Rosiefox. Well that is an interesting question because as you say, a lot of D/s relationships are sexual. My short answer is yes, a D/s relationship can be non-sexual for the simple reason that a couple’s relationship is their own. A Dominance and submissive dynamic is very much about a power exchange, and no one says sex has to be involved; in fact that would be like saying when you aren’t having sex, you’re not D/s for that period of time!
Some D/s relationships have elements of Domestic Service or DDlg where sex isn’t the driving force, so again that doesn’t make you not D/s. How you shape you relationship whether it be face to face or long distance, a power exchange can exist quite happily I would imagine.
For us there is a sexual charge to it which really helps to consolidate all the different aspects of our relationship as it is a thread that runs through it. I do need the emotional connection to crave the physical though whereas HL often seeks the physical as a means to support the emotional. We have times that there is more sex, more play and more scenes and other times that there is less. I do think that ebbs and flows will be natural and sometimes the sexual side just isn’t possible for whatever reason. Ultimately D/s is about the power exchange. It is about meeting the needs of the other person and showing this through openness, honesty and respect. I think what that involves and how it plays out very much depends on the couple although D/s is part of BDSM and so for most, there is kink involved.
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