when life gets in the way

When Life Gets in the Way – Tell Me About

I don’t own a blog, nor have much experience by the way of a D/s lifestyle, but I am able to relate at some level to the prompt suggested for Tell Me About this time – When Life Gets In The Way. Recently Hananoki and I established a D/s relationship in addition to our 10-year […]

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Aftercare

More often that not I read, or see images depicting aftercare in D/s – Kinky play scenarios where the sub is wrapped up to help them come down from what has been most likely an emotional experience. For those of you who have played like this before, you will know the value of ensuring a […]

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Impact Play

I tend to think that impact play is one of the first things that people think of when conjuring up images of BDSM. There might be some black leather or shiny PVC knocking about too, however, whips, paddles and floggers are common go-to images. I recall seeing images of staged spanking in magazines when I […]

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Intimacy

Intimacy

What is Intimacy? Intimacy is a feeling of knowing another person deeply and feeling deeply known by them. It is created over time and comes from a deep connection on a number of levels. There are different types of intimacy, including physical, emotional, experiential and intellectual. Often people assume that intimacy is about a sexual […]

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limits and boundaries

Limits and Boundaries

In relationships, knowing your partner’s limits and boundaries is essential. If you don’t know what they are then you can’t observe them. Neither can you push them. In a D/s relationship this is even more important. Observing limits and boundaries is part of building trust in the other person. So is communicating around your own […]

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Journaling For Doms?

For subs? I guess that when the term journaling comes up in a D/s conversation most people would initially associate that with a submissive practice. That is perfectly understandable, as keeping a diary or journal to capture thoughts and feelings is widely used by a submissive partner to convene what is going on in their […]

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journaling

Journaling

As a pastime, journaling seems it seems to have undergone a surge in popularity in recent years, with people turning to journals as a response to a busy and over-committed life where they need to take time out for themselves to reconnect and organise the many demands. It can be a helpful way to de-clutter […]

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