What is double penetration? Well, it may not be what you think, actually, it probably is if you’re reading this, however, just in case. What
Category: Play, scenes and kink
5 Things to consider about Mind Fucks?
I’m sure those of you with some experience will know there are more than 5 things to consider about mind fucks, however, we have selected
9 Popular Positions of submission for you to try
In one of the early blog posts on submissy I wrote about the fact that HisLordship asked me to practice 9 positions of submission. What we did
Basic Things You Should Know About Fisting
What are the basic things to know about fisting? Apply common sense I would say apply common sense, however, that is a sliding scale for
The lube we love ~ stick around and read on
Although in some corners of our still very vanilla world lube might be viewed as a shameful product, bought by people who are past their
Layering Communication for a Successful Scene
What is Layering Communication Layering communication so that you reveal instructions one by one allows you to lead the scene and take your partner with
Things you should know about Erotic Humiliation
Getting started with erotic humiliation Erotic humiliation is a difficult thing to discuss and explain because what humiliates one person erotically, won’t necessarily have an
Leather Care Tips from Leatherman
Leather care for collars, cuffs, floggers, and whips. The smell is deeply earthy and slightly intoxicating. The feel is strong, sometimes buttery soft and sometimes
A Quick Guide to Getting Started with Impact Play
Before we get started, what is impact play? Impact play is when one person is hit or struck by another person for the sexual gratification
How To Put Yourself In BDSM Restraints
With more and more relationships taking place online these days, submissives are finding themselves doing many of the things their Doms usually do. Putting themselves
Viewing of a submissive – first time camming
A bit of background For those of you who do not know me, I am Vixen Lee, Submissive of (Master) James Lee. This post is
What you need to know about Electroplay
Electroplay is something that we enjoy and through chats on the topic, we have managed to pique the interest of some of the other members
Starting out with BDSM Safety
BDSM can involve placing yourself in a vulnerable position, both physically and emotionally, so it goes without saying that safety will be on your mind.
How to Master Orgasm Control
I realised that we didn’t have a post about orgasm control so thought it would be an idea to write one. As always, there is
So you want to try rope play?
Rope play is the topic for Tell Me About this week and I realised we didn’t have a post about it on our blog so
Impact Play
I tend to think that impact play is one of the first things that people think of when conjuring up images of BDSM. There might
Limits and Boundaries
In relationships, knowing your partner’s limits and boundaries is essential. If you don’t know what they are then you can’t observe them. Neither can you
Wax Play- Naked Flame
For the purposes of full disclosure, I haven’t done a great deal of wax play, or I should say, we haven’t. It’s not that we
Edge Play
There’s a certain comfortableness about edge play that draws me back to thinking about it; I guess that is part of the attraction. I wasn’t
When Reality becomes Fantasy
In the words of my Sir. SX Reality… So, we plucked up the courage to visit the sex/swinger’s club for the third time. Full of