Leather care for collars, cuffs, floggers, and whips. The smell is deeply earthy and slightly intoxicating. The feel is strong, sometimes buttery soft and sometimes stiffly unyielding. It can subdue,…
A Quick Guide to Getting Started with Impact Play
Before we get started, what is impact play? Impact play is when one person is hit or struck by another person for the sexual gratification of either or both. Spanking…
Viewing of a submissive – first time camming
A bit of background For those of you who do not know me, I am Vixen Lee, Submissive of (Master) James Lee. This post is about my first time camming…
What you need to know about Electroplay
Electroplay is something that we enjoy and through chats on the topic, we have managed to pique the interest of some of the other members who have also now tried…
Starting out with BDSM Safety
BDSM can involve placing yourself in a vulnerable position, both physically and emotionally, so it goes without saying that safety will be on your mind. Whether you are Dominant or…
How to Master Orgasm Control
I realised that we didn’t have a post about orgasm control so thought it would be an idea to write one. As always, there is no wrong or right so…
Layering Communication for a Successful Scene
Layering communication so that you reveal instructions one by one allows you to lead he scene and take your partner with you, but this is not something that seems to…
So you want to try rope play?
Rope play is the topic for Tell Me About this week and I realised we didn’t have a post about it on our blog so wanted to put something together….
Impact Play
I tend to think that impact play is one of the first things that people think of when conjuring up images of BDSM. There might be some black leather or…
Wax Play- Naked Flame
For the purposes of full disclosure, I haven’t done a great deal of wax play, or I should say, we haven’t. It’s not that we have a great aversion to…
When Reality becomes Fantasy
In the words of my Sir. SX Reality… So, we plucked up the courage to visit the sex/swinger’s club for the third time. Full of excitement and anticipation we drove…
Tell Me About … Pain
For the majority of people who are into BDSM, pain and pleasure seem to walk hand in hand. How you feel and the way that you experience each will vary…
Life Change
As I look out the window on a bright sunny day, I notice the gentle breeze through the trees and wonder what it would feel like against my skin. The…
A Beginner’s Guide to Roleplay
Roleplay within a BDSM context can be exciting for some and daunting for others, so we thought it would be a good idea to put together some ideas which could…
Spanking and me
Spanking had never been a something we dabbled in. It had never been discussed. Never seen in a movie or read in a book. Never suggested. Until one day… During…
Always have a Safeword
A lot of our play is impact play so, for us, a safeword is important to be able to stop play. Having said that I can only think of 1…
Tell Me About … Bondage
Bondage is a huge part of our play. I like the feeling of excitment, nervousness and freedom that runs through me all at the same time. The excitement because I…
Orgasms: The Icing on My Cake
In our early years I would say that orgasms were few and far between. Not through lack of opportunity as we’ve always had lots of sex, it’s just that I…
How To Install A Ceiling Mount
I have been interested in having a suspension point in the bedroom for sometime now. I was envious of those who managed to get their bedrooms ‘pimped’ for play, and…
Accessories and Mindset
The theme for our topic chat this week is accessories and mindset. This really goes further than just thinking about what we wear as part of play, to tapping in…