D/s safety

Starting out with BDSM Safety

BDSM can involve placing yourself in a vulnerable position, both physically and emotionally, so it goes without saying that safety will be on your mind. Whether you are Dominant or submissive, you are taking risks and you need to know and feel that this will be safe for you. Most BDSM play involves some risk […]

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orgasm control

How to Master Orgasm Control

I realised that we didn’t have a post about orgasm control so thought it would be an idea to write one. As always, there is no wrong or right so these are just suggestions about what you might want to try which are based on my own experience. What is Orgasm Control? Orgasm control is […]

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Rope Play

So you want to try rope play?

Rope play is the topic for Tell Me About this week and I realised we didn’t have a post about it on our blog so wanted to put something together. What I have done is to try to collect some resources by way of advice and instruction as there is quite a lot out there […]

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Impact Play

I tend to think that impact play is one of the first things that people think of when conjuring up images of BDSM. There might be some black leather or shiny PVC knocking about too, however, whips, paddles and floggers are common go-to images. I recall seeing images of staged spanking in magazines when I […]

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Wax Play- Naked Flame

For the purposes of full disclosure, I haven’t done a great deal of wax play, or I should say, we haven’t.  It’s not that we have a great aversion to it, it’s just that it’s never high on the priority list.  When have played with wax, it’s been fun and like most people we probably […]

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sex/swinger's club

When Reality becomes Fantasy

In the words of my Sir. SX Reality… So, we plucked up the courage to visit the sex/swinger’s club for the third time. Full of excitement and anticipation we drove to the venue, both full of nervous tension. On arrival we assured each other that we were both still 100% up for it, although deep […]

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pain

Tell Me About … Pain

For the majority of people who are into BDSM, pain and pleasure seem to walk hand in hand. How you feel and the way that you experience each will vary greatly from person to person and will be dependent on a variety of other factors, but there is usually a close relationship between the two. […]

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His Submissive

Life Change

As I look out the window on a bright sunny day, I notice the gentle breeze through the trees and wonder what it would feel like against my skin. The yearning inside me to go outside and experience it for myself is rivaled only by my desire to be a good girl. Master has instructed […]

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beginner's guide to roleplay

A Beginner’s Guide to Roleplay

Roleplay within a BDSM context can be exciting for some and daunting for others, so we thought it would be a good idea to put together some ideas which could form a bit of a beginner’s guide to roleplay. Roleplay is when you act out or perform the part of a person or character.  In […]

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Spanking and Me - picture of Emma's bottom with rose tattoo

Spanking and me

Spanking had never been a something we dabbled in. It had never been discussed. Never seen in a movie or read in a book. Never suggested. Until one day… During pregnancy, my hormones skyrocket and I am a horny mess. I am much more forward in my initiation than is my o-so-coy usual approach. So, […]

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safeword

Always have a Safeword

A lot of our play is impact play so, for us, a safeword is important to be able to stop play. Having said that I can only think of 1 time when it has been used by me. To be honest, on this occasion, I knew my head was not in the right space even […]

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bondage

Tell Me About … Bondage

Bondage is a huge part of our play. I like the feeling of excitment, nervousness and freedom that runs through me all at the same time. The excitement because I love this sort of play, nervousness because I don’t know exactly how or what we will play with and the freedom to let go when […]

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Orgasms

Orgasms: The Icing on My Cake

In our early years I would say that orgasms were few and far between. Not through lack of opportunity as we’ve always had lots of sex, it’s just that I didn’t orgasm every time. I’m sure I read or watched somewhere that not all women orgasm. Luckily for me it wasn’t an issue for me […]

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suspension

How To Install A Ceiling Mount

I have been interested in having a suspension point in the bedroom for sometime now. I was envious of those who managed to get their bedrooms ‘pimped’ for play, and hoped I would one day be able to rig something up! As luck would have it I saw on line a ceiling mount for exercise […]

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Accessories and Mindset - image from Bijoux Indescrits

Accessories and Mindset

The theme for our topic chat this week is accessories and mindset. This really goes further than just thinking about what we wear as part of play, to tapping in to how accessories can make us feel. Sometimes certain things will bring with them a particular memory and trigger a feeling based on how they […]

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Headspace - Gem as puppy naked with a tail

Finding an Alternative Headspace

Everyone will be different as a headspace is very personal and individual. This is how it is for me and how it works in our dynamic. I am certainly no expert.   I think the most important part of finding an alternative headspace is initially thinking about the space you want to be in and […]

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Primal play – bite me

Odaxelagnia is identified as a sexual paraphilia or kink whereby one experiences sexual pleasure and arousal from biting and/or being bitten. Odaxelagnia is sometimes associated with sexual vampirism but, generally, most forms of sexual biting do not tend to draw blood for obvious infection risk reasons. Apparently, human saliva contains at least 50 species of bacteria, and […]

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