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Tell Me About …

The SafeworD/s Club is proud to present ….. our newest project, ‘Tell Me About … Dominance and submission“. First we had the chat, then we had the forums, the we had the blog and NOW we have a writing prompt! Ok so why start a writing prompt? There are lots of amazing writing prompts and […]

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Review, Reflection and Resolutions

Thank You What with all the festive fun, we are a little bit later than intended in wishing you all a very happy new year. With that obviously comes the hope of a really good 2019 to one and all and also a good opportunity for review and reflection. It has been busy for us […]

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Self Control Chat Notes

These notes were prepared for the Monday night topic chat at The SafeworD/s Club. Join us next Monday to discuss Having a Servant Attitude! This weeks theme is “All Tied Up”, so Lars and i decided to start by considering being restrained and in control of ourselves first and foremost. We prepared the following questions to […]

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News News News – Important, please read

For the last while we have been sending out a weekly newsletter containing details of the theme for the week, and links to the chats, the featured posts and the forum. As is an issue with a lot of mail like this, it can end up going into the junk folder, especially with platforms like […]

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The Risks of Knowing an Expert

When we first joined online communities for BDSM lifestyles, we were excited. Excited to the point that we both had a bit of frenzy. So many people talked about so many things, and we wanted to try it all. We have made many friends over the years who have felt the same way. And frenzy […]

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Red Flags in Online Relationships

When you initially go online to meet new people, it is easy to get sucked into the belief that everyone wants to be nice, and is generally good. This is a mistake- here is why:   -Possibility of ID theft -Possibility of catfishing -Possibility of blackmail or otherwise personally harmful incidence -Invasion of privacy or […]

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Finding a Community

Sometimes you just get one of those overwhelming feelings that what you have done is right. That is it has all come together and it is what you wanted it to be. That happened yesterday for me when we held the chat for Emily. As soon as news spread, people began to log on and […]

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Elust 105

Photo courtesy of Mrs Fever Welcome to Elust 105– The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at Elust. Want to be included in Elust #106 Start with the rules, […]

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Inside Eroticon

A few of my fellow bloggers have asked me to write about my experience at Eroticon, ‘a weekend of learning, socialising and fun for sex bloggers, erotica writers and erotic creatives’. I had never really considered myself to be in any of these categories so I was a little worried that I wouldn’t fit in but […]

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