To whomever reads this blog needs to understand, this blog (entry) is my opinion and my opinion only. I have seen a common frustration through
Category: Building a D/s Dynamic
Sustaining a D/s dynamic ~ finding what works best for you
Establishing a D/s dynamic It can be quite overwhelming when you start out to add D/s to an existing relationship. I know that when we
How Do I Get My Dom To Listen?
One of the key success factors of any relationship is effective communication. I know for sure over the years that my sub (Missy) has internally
Focus Questions for working on Dominant submissive foundations
This post is part of our Dom sub workbook and involves using focus questions to look more closely at the foundations of your D/s. If you are
Choosing your names and honorifics in a Dominant submissive relationship
Choosing your names and deciding which honorifics to use is a topic which comes up quite a bit with those who are new to the
Beginning D/s and finding support
It is not unusual to have people say it must be easier beginning D/s within a long term marriage. I believe that may be true
When Life Gets in the Way – Tell Me About
I don’t own a blog, nor have much experience by the way of a D/s lifestyle, but I am able to relate at some level
Focus questions for working on Dominant submissive Mindset
This post is part of our Dom sub workbook and involves using focus questions to look more closely at Dominant submissive mindset. Mindset, accessing and
How to access and maintain a Dominant or submissive Mindset
A mindset is a set of beliefs which affects how you think, feel and behave. People refer to having a fixed mindset where you can
Setting goals for D/s
So welcome to the New Year and with that comes the thought of what we want to get from it in a variety of ways.
Aftercare
More often that not I read, or see images depicting aftercare in D/s – Kinky play scenarios where the sub is wrapped up to help
Dominance and submission Online
This guest post is a collaborative post by Vixen Lee and Sub Mace. We are really grateful to them for working together to share their
Creating a D/s Contract
The first thing I want to say is that you don’t need a D/s contract. This site is not somewhere that we tout the one
Intimacy
What is Intimacy? Intimacy is a feeling of knowing another person deeply and feeling deeply known by them. It is created over time and comes
Journaling
As a pastime, journaling seems it seems to have undergone a surge in popularity in recent years, with people turning to journals as a response
Resets – what, why and how
What is a reset? I am not sure if resets are things which exist formally in D/s relationships or if they are something we have
Discipline
I think most people understand the concept of discipline whereby training is designed to condition people or animals to behave in certain way. There is
Are You Being Served?
The TellMeAbout prompt this time around is Service. Missy has written a very personal piece on the subject (here) and in it self is another
Respect
It takes a lot for me to respect you. In someways, I almost have to feel you, like making a lasting impression that I can
Rituals: the why the how and the what
Why we have rituals For most D/s couples, rituals are quite an important part of what they do. Although they are often the small things,