Susie is my crossdressing submissive self. In this blog post, I explore why I dress and talk to others about why they dress. I have asked myself why I cross…
Things you should know about Erotic Humiliation
Getting started with erotic humiliation Erotic humiliation is a difficult thing to discuss and explain because what humiliates one person erotically, won’t necessarily have an impact on another – what…
The beginning of our married D/s dynamic
He said, “Yes, sort of… The beginning of our married D/s dynamic was a surprise, and like many couples, I, the submissive, initiated it. For just under 40 years…
Keeping Connected at Christmas ~ Advent Calendar 2021
Christmas can be a hard time to feel connected as it just seems to be so busy for many of us. Whether we are busy making preparations, dealing with family,…
Leather Care Tips from Leatherman
Leather care for collars, cuffs, floggers, and whips. The smell is deeply earthy and slightly intoxicating. The feel is strong, sometimes buttery soft and sometimes stiffly unyielding. It can subdue,…
A Quick Guide to Getting Started with Impact Play
Before we get started, what is impact play? Impact play is when one person is hit or struck by another person for the sexual gratification of either or both. Spanking…
The importance of effective communication in a D/s relationship
Effective communication is one of the foundations of a Dominant submissive relationship. Actually, effective communication is one of the foundations of any healthy relationship, but it is even more important…
How Do I Get My Dom To Listen?
One of the key success factors of any relationship is effective communication. I know for sure over the years that my sub (Missy) has internally asked herself, how do I…
How To Put Yourself In BDSM Restraints
With more and more relationships taking place online these days, submissives are finding themselves doing many of the things their Doms usually do. Putting themselves into wrist and ankle restraints…
A little bit of a chat update
I wanted to share with you a bit of a chat update. This past year we have been so pleased to see the number of chats we host each week…
A Day Without Panties in the Florida Heat!
Sometimes, you just have to learn lessons the hard way. Sundays are errand days and a few Sundays back I had quite a bit of running around to do. I…
Focus Questions for working on Dominant submissive foundations
This post is part of our Dom sub workbook and involves using focus questions to look more closely at the foundations of your D/s. If you are starting out in a D/s…
What you need to know about Middles
I started a forum thread about middles which you can find here. It seemed that being a middle was something that lots of people weren’t sure about as middles are…
Choosing your names and honorifics in a Dominant submissive relationship
Choosing your names and deciding which honorifics to use is a topic which comes up quite a bit with those who are new to the lifestyle. As with many things,…
What’s In a Name: Names and Honorifics
The current writing prompt on the Tell Me About… site is “names and honorifics”. An honorific is a “title that conveys esteem, courtesy, or respect for position or rank when…
My Master Made Me a Wooden Horse
Dear Home Depot, I don’t usually write letters (everyone says that don’t they lol) but I was so happy with an experience involving your store that I just had to…
Viewing of a submissive – first time camming
A bit of background For those of you who do not know me, I am Vixen Lee, Submissive of (Master) James Lee. This post is about my first time camming…
Addicted to Love ~ the truth about subfrenzy
Many new submissives experience subfrenzy without knowing anything about it. Although subfrenzy is something discussed in most BDSM circles, the can be a scarcity of information online to help understand…
Beginning D/s and finding support
It is not unusual to have people say it must be easier beginning D/s within a long term marriage. I believe that may be true for some but not all….
What you need to know about Electroplay
Electroplay is something that we enjoy and through chats on the topic, we have managed to pique the interest of some of the other members who have also now tried…