What is double penetration? Well, it may not be what you think, actually, it probably is if you’re reading this, however, just in case. What
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5 Things to consider about Mind Fucks?
I’m sure those of you with some experience will know there are more than 5 things to consider about mind fucks, however, we have selected
Sustaining a D/s dynamic ~ finding what works best for you
Establishing a D/s dynamic It can be quite overwhelming when you start out to add D/s to an existing relationship. I know that when we
9 Popular Positions of submission for you to try
In one of the early blog posts on submissy I wrote about the fact that HisLordship asked me to practice 9 positions of submission. What we did
Basic Things You Should Know About Fisting
What are the basic things to know about fisting? Apply common sense I would say apply common sense, however, that is a sliding scale for
The lube we love ~ stick around and read on
Although in some corners of our still very vanilla world lube might be viewed as a shameful product, bought by people who are past their
Layering Communication for a Successful Scene
What is Layering Communication Layering communication so that you reveal instructions one by one allows you to lead the scene and take your partner with
Growing My Submission
I recently read a book in which the main characters were challenged to shake up their D/s dynamics by trying new things, different partners and/or
Why Dress?
Susie is my crossdressing submissive self. In this blog post, I explore why I dress and talk to others about why they dress. I have
Things you should know about Erotic Humiliation
Getting started with erotic humiliation Erotic humiliation is a difficult thing to discuss and explain because what humiliates one person erotically, won’t necessarily have an
The beginning of our married D/s dynamic
He said, “Yes, sort of… The beginning of our married D/s dynamic was a surprise, and like many couples, I, the submissive, initiated it.
Keeping Connected at Christmas ~ Advent Calendar 2021
Christmas can be a hard time to feel connected as it just seems to be so busy for many of us. Whether we are busy
Leather Care Tips from Leatherman
Leather care for collars, cuffs, floggers, and whips. The smell is deeply earthy and slightly intoxicating. The feel is strong, sometimes buttery soft and sometimes
A Quick Guide to Getting Started with Impact Play
Before we get started, what is impact play? Impact play is when one person is hit or struck by another person for the sexual gratification
The importance of effective communication in a D/s relationship
Effective communication is one of the foundations of a Dominant submissive relationship. Actually, effective communication is one of the foundations of any healthy relationship, but
How Do I Get My Dom To Listen?
One of the key success factors of any relationship is effective communication. I know for sure over the years that my sub (Missy) has internally
How To Put Yourself In BDSM Restraints
With more and more relationships taking place online these days, submissives are finding themselves doing many of the things their Doms usually do. Putting themselves
A little bit of a chat update
I wanted to share with you a bit of a chat update. This past year we have been so pleased to see the number of
A Day Without Panties in the Florida Heat!
Sometimes, you just have to learn lessons the hard way. Sundays are errand days and a few Sundays back I had quite a bit of
Focus Questions for working on Dominant submissive foundations
This post is part of our Dom sub workbook and involves using focus questions to look more closely at the foundations of your D/s. If you are