Sometimes, you just have to learn lessons the hard way. Sundays are errand days and a few Sundays back I had quite a bit of running around to do. I needed to drop off a couple of orders to friends, take a return back to Target, pick up a prescription from Publix and put gas […]
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This post is part of our Dom sub workbook and involves using focus questions to look more closely at the foundations of your D/s. If you are starting out in a D/s relationship, or just feel that things are due for a bit of a review then perhaps you would like to join us in reflecting on […]
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I started a forum thread about middles which you can find here. It seemed that being a middle was something that lots of people weren’t sure about as middles are so much lesser known than littles. I thought for this reason that I would write a post in the hope that I could offer some […]
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Choosing your names and deciding which honorifics to use is a topic which comes up quite a bit with those who are new to the lifestyle. As with many things, the available information can lead newcomers to think that there are set conventions and rules that you have to adopt, but this is not the […]
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The current writing prompt on the Tell Me About… site is “names and honorifics”. An honorific is a “title that conveys esteem, courtesy, or respect for position or rank when used in addressing or referring to a person.” Names and especially honorifics play a significant part in my M/s dynamic, so this seemed like a […]
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Dear Home Depot, I don’t usually write letters (everyone says that don’t they lol) but I was so happy with an experience involving your store that I just had to write and tell you about it. My Master made me a wooden horse! Several months ago, well, four actually, I became involved in a Master/slave […]
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A bit of background For those of you who do not know me, I am Vixen Lee, Submissive of (Master) James Lee. This post is about my first time camming for him. We agreed upon and entered a D/s contract in June of 2020. Our dynamic can seem a little odd in some regards and […]
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Many new submissives experience subfrenzy without knowing anything about it. Although subfrenzy is something discussed in most BDSM circles, the can be a scarcity of information online to help understand how it can appear when D/s is introduced into a long term relationship. Whether you are in a play type dynamic or a D/s lifestyle, […]
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It is not unusual to have people say it must be easier beginning D/s within a long term marriage. I believe that may be true for some but not all. The day I suggested D/s to my husband I’m sure he was shellshocked and thought it couldn’t be real. Months later when he found me […]
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Electroplay is something that we enjoy and through chats on the topic, we have managed to pique the interest of some of the other members who have also now tried it and enjoyed it. I thought it might be an idea to write a post outlining what we see as being the key things to […]
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I am always on the search for a good clit stimulator. I have some of the sucker kind and find they work well for me, especially when I use them myself. So when toy company Sohimi asked me to review some of their products, I thought it would be fun to try a remote control […]
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‘Why does sexual compatibility matter in a relationship?’ is a guest post written by Daria Roman of Silicon Wives. Very often, people tend to forget just how crucial sexual compatibility with your partner is. They’d rather look for someone who shares the same views as them in terms of politics, religion, or family – and […]
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What follows is a fantasy that I have written from the viewpoint of my PuppetMaster. This was an assignment He gave me as a way to see how much I have learned about Him in the last three months and how well I understand where His head is. I hope you enjoy His day in […]
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Three months ago I was lost, confused, hurt and probably a little angry. I wasn’t sure who I was, something I had never experienced before, or what I wanted. Now, three months later, I have discovered a part of myself I never had a name for before and I am happier than I have been […]
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The topic for wicked wednesday this time is self care. I have written about Why D/s helps with my self care over on Submissy but I thought this time I would take a different approach and apply the principles to our D/s relationship. Applying self care principles to a D/s relationship Self care is “a […]
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Shortly after beginning our relationship, an opportunity presented itself for my Master to visit me for a few days in May. Tentative plans were made and we hoped for the best. As May drew closer, plans and dates were confirmed and His flight was booked. I would be meeting my Master in person for the […]
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BDSM can involve placing yourself in a vulnerable position, both physically and emotionally, so it goes without saying that safety will be on your mind. Whether you are Dominant or submissive, you are taking risks and you need to know and feel that this will be safe for you. Most BDSM play involves some risk […]
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It is hard to believe that missy and I have been running the SafeworD/s Club for nearly 5 years. When I think back to the one- or two-page blog we started with, and then adding plug-in after plug-in to make it almost unmanageable, I have to laugh. We knew little back then of web sites […]
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I am a slave. There are many types of D/s dynamics, and often couples fall into more than one type or category, or they may not fit into any defined category at all. My dynamic is that of Master and slave. My purpose is to serve my Master’s needs and to please Him. By definition, […]
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Any new relationship will have its challenges, and I will go so far as to say a BDSM relationship probably has more than a “vanilla” relationship does. There is so much that goes into learning your new role as a submissive that it can be overwhelming. Today I want to talk about the pain of […]
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