Forced Orgasm Scene

The first proper scene the we did when we started D/s was a forced orgasm scene and it remains one ...
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Tools to Track Service

When i consider the word servant, honestly a big part of me shrinks away in disgust. i think about the ...
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Respect the Rules

Rules are pretty key to our relationship, although even without that I am a person who likes to have rules ...
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Service

I have always said that I am not a ‘service sub’. My evidence for this has been the fact that ...
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Puppy Play

I think that this play is very personal to us both, how we do things may not be the way ...
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The Doxy

I posted this on my own blog in November 2016 so it is certainly not new. When I wrote the ...
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Ruby Glow Review

The Ruby Glow is a “dual-action vibrator and intimate massager.” According to Rocks Off who make the toy, when you ...
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Self Control Chat Notes

These notes were prepared for the Monday night topic chat at The SafeworD/s Club. Join us next Monday to discuss Having ...
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Emotional Masochism

I have always had a good pain threshold. Pain was always something that I could manage and make work for ...
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DIY Bed Restraint System

When we first started exploring bondage, which was pretty early on for us, like before we moved in together, Daddy ...
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News News News – Important, please read

For the last while we have been sending out a weekly newsletter containing details of the theme for the week, ...
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Emotionally Bound

The topic this week on The Safeword/s Club is bondage, and while MrH uses many forms of bondage (rope and ...
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An interview with me myself and I – One year on.

So here we are.  Been a while hasn't it, but I did warn you. So settle in.  A little over ...
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The Risks of Knowing an Expert

When we first joined online communities for BDSM lifestyles, we were excited. Excited to the point that we both had ...
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Things I Thought I Knew But Didn’t.

Going straight to the point, with no dilly-dally, the two things that I thought I knew better than anything was ...
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Kissing the frog

Sometimes life feels like a fairy tale. Everything is going your way, you are with the love of your life, ...
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Once Upon a Time

Story-lines and narratives can be a useful part of play, whether this is sexual or non-sexual. In it's simplest form ...
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Maintaining Motivation

One of the most common themes discussed by subs regarding the challenges of a D/s relationship is consistency, or the ...
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Red Flags in Online Relationships

When you initially go online to meet new people, it is easy to get sucked into the belief that everyone ...
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Review -Sheets of San Francisco

Missy and I first came across this great product (not literally, but later) when attending Eroticon in 2018. The guys ...
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How to Create, Implement, and Enforce Rules

The following post has been co-written, because we feel that a Dominant and submissive perspective to rules is important. Please ...
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‘It aint what you do it’s the way that you do it.’

To quote Bananarama, "It aint what you do it's the way that you do it, and that's what gets results." ...
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Non-sexual Play

When i think about vanilla life, just having general relationships outside of kink, i think about how important it is ...
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Finding and defining your little

Who is your little self? In the book The Big Book For Littles, the author Penny Barber lists a few ...
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Like to build your own fucking machine?

I've for some time looked through different videos that more or less show details on fucking machines, and have picked ...
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Ready, Get set, Go!

We thought it might be useful to have a post about scenes and play which covered both our perspectives. Clearly ...
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Pervertable Chat Notes

Hello! The following post contains discussion points from the chat hosted at The Safeword/s Club. Join us for our next ...
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Kinky DIY

I have to admit that I am partial to a bit of DIY. It all stems from my Dad, who ...
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Control Issues and Submission

I like to be in control. Well, that's not entirely accurate - I hate to feel out of control. At ...
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Finding a Community

Sometimes you just get one of those overwhelming feelings that what you have done is right. That is it has ...
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Satisfying Emotional Needs in D/s- Chat Notes

Hello! The following post contains discussion points from the chat hosted at The Safeword/s Club. Join us for our next ...
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When times get rough: Reset

This post was originally shared on Married and Owned Needing a reset Resets are not just scheduled meetings, they are ...
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Toy Storage & Organization

This post was originally posted on http://www.marriedandowned.com Our first post! Eeeeeee! So Daddy and i have had to get creative ...
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Elust 105

Photo courtesy of Mrs Fever Welcome to Elust 105- The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are ...
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Inside Eroticon

A few of my fellow bloggers have asked me to write about my experience at Eroticon, ‘a weekend of learning, ...
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Fishnet Stockings, Where’s The Catch?

It wasn't always fishnets; I have always loved underwear on a woman, even back as a kid when my Mum ...
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SWC Update!

When we set up the site we wanted to host the topic chats, which are always well supported, but we ...
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Consensual Non-Consent

This is a post that I wrote last year and posted on submissybut it seemed to fit with the ones ...
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Monkey’s New Family

(Author's Note: Another story written by request for a friend. It's about a monkey, and family. My apologies to snakes ...
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Never Tangle With a Medusa Princess

(Author’s Note: This story is the fourth in a series of stories that feature princesses, twisted fairy tales, and an ...
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The Little Puppy’s Meow

(Author's Note: A friend asked for a story with a talking tree and a dog that meows. If you have ...
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Roleplay

We recently had a chat at The SafeworD/s Club about Roleplay. In my preamble to the topic I described roleplay ...
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Consent

Consent is a serious topic and it is a complicated and contentious area in BDSM. For us consent is always ...
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Consent, Safety and Aftercare

In the relationship we have, consent is taken as a given. This is because we trust each other and communicate ...
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A new Dom’s tale. To infinity and beyond

Here we are around 6 months into this journey. I was asked to write this and was initially nervous about ...
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Never Claw a Werewolf Princess (Little Bedtime Stories #3)

(Author’s Note: This story is the third in a series of stories that feature princesses, twisted fairy tales, and an ...
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Big Bear and Little Cub

(Author's Note: Many of my stories are requested by friends. This was as well. There were no specifics. She just ...
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Bottoms up to Anal Sex

Anal play is something that I have posted about a bit on submissy but as anal sex was the prompt ...
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Happy New Year

As 2017 draws to a close, we wanted to thank you all very much for your continued support with The ...
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The Fierce and Formidable Dragon

(Author's Note: This story came about in a unique way. I was in chat on another site and chat was ...
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Never Bite a Vampire Princess (Little Bedtime Stories #2)

(Author’s Note: This story is the second in a series of stories that feature princesses, twisted fairy tales, and an ...
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The Perfect Gumdrop

(Author's Note: A friend asked for this story. She wanted it to be about a gumdrop. Not quite sure if ...
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Never Kiss a Zombie Princess (Little Bedtime Stories #1)

(Author's Note: This story is the first in a series of stories that feature princesses, twisted fairy tales, and an ...
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SWC Book Group

We are pleased to announce the arrival of our brand new SWC Book Group. Please CLICK HERE to join the ...
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9 Positions of Submission

In one of the early blog posts on submissy I wrote about the fact that HisLordship asked me to practice ...
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Hypoxphilia (Breath Play)

THE FOLLOWING POST IS NOT AN ADVERTISEMENT TO PROMOTE BREATH PLAY. THE ACTIVITY CAN BE DANGEROUS AND POTENTIALLY FATAL. THE ...
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Holding Space

There are times when I need to be broken by him, taken apart and ripped wide open. There are times ...
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How I told my husband I wanted a Daddy

It was very early on in our D/s, through my reading and chatting with others I was discovering more of ...
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Setting Limits

When we first started out, HisLordship and I looked over a limits list together. It is really important in a ...
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Hello Yellow

Tomorrow is World Metal Health day so I wanted to take a minute just to raise awareness for that. At ...
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She’s Smarter Than the Average Bear!

Inspiration for a posts come from many sources, however, it is always good to read another person's experiences in which ...
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The Power Exchange

The power exchange that takes place in our D/s relationship is a key part of what keeps our dynamic alive, ...
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Communication and D/s

Communication has been the key in helping us to build and maintain our D/s dynamic. For us, the foundations are ...
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D/s Isn’t Everything – It’s Something

Having experienced a few bumps, humps and black holes during our relationship, Missy and I have never lost sight of ...
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Trust

Trust is vital in any relationship. It is one of the cornerstones and without it the relationship will soon start ...
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The SWC Events Week Beginning 11/09/17

The OPEN DOM AND SUB CHATS this week will take place on SUNDAY and THURSDAY from 7pm as usual. On ...
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Community

According to the internet, a community is a place where people come together to share a common interest. That I ...
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Dom Drop

In a recent chat event on the SWC many subs were interested to hear about Dom Drop, what that felt ...
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Weekly Discussion thread 04/09/17

What are your favourite pervertables? ...
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Tickle Torture

Dominants will be referred to as male and submissives referred to as female in this post because that's easiest for ...
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Starting Out

Since we started the SWC I have had the pleasure of reading the hopes, dreams and exasperations of both subs ...
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Cuckolding

What is a cuckold? A cuckold is man who finds pleasure in seeing his wife (or partner) having sex with ...
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The SWC Events week beginning 04/09/17

The OPEN DOM AND SUB CHATS this week will take place on SUNDAY and THURSDAY from 7pm as usual. On ...
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Navigating Bumps: Communication and getting back on track

You can’t have a rainbow without a little rain and we all know that D/s is one big and beautiful ...
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What If He Won’t Join In

When I started researching D/s I joined another online community and despite my normal introversion I jumped right into the ...
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Sub Drop

Recently we had a Topic Chat about sub drop and Dom drop which was quite interesting so I thought that ...
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EVENT TO BE RESCEDULED – Dom and sub Topic Chat / Bondage and Restraint pt 2 / 8pm-9pm EDT

Our Bondage and Restraint aficionado, Emily, will not be able to host her chat on the 30th August between 8pm ...
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Weekly Discussion Thread 28/08/17

What would be your favourite D/s holiday destination, and why? ...
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The SWC Events week beginning 28/08/17

As usual we will have our OPEN DOM AND SUB CHATS on SUNDAY and THURSDAY from 7pm. We have two ...
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Border line

I read a post today by Xtac who told the tale of his recent journey through an airport and the ...
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Journaling as a Submissive Implement

My submission is the expression of my love and devotion for my husband. It is part of me and makes ...
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And next, here comes the Blog

Just over two months ago, HisLordship and I opened the virtual doors of The SafeworD/s Club. The idea behind the ...
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The SWC Events week beginning 21/08/17

The OPEN DOM AND SUB CHATS this week will take place on SUNDAY and THURSDAY from 7pm as usual. On ...
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The SWC Events week beginning 14/08/17

As usual we will have our OPEN DOM AND SUB CHATS on SUNDAY and THURSDAY from 7pm. We have two ...
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Weekly Discussion Thread 14/08/17

What do you most enjoy about bondage? ...
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Weekly Discussion Thread w/b 07.08.17

What is the most important thing you have learnt about being in a D/s relationship? ...
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Weekly Events week beginning 07/08/17

The OPEN DOM AND SUB CHATS this week will take place on SUNDAY and THURSDAY from 7pm as usual. On ...
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New Forum – Dom, Sub or Switch …..?

Based on a conversation in the Main Lounge the other night, we have added a new forum. It is meant ...
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Weekly Discussion Thread w/b 31.07.17

What is your favourite spanking implement? ...
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Weekly Events week beginning 31/07/17

As usual we will have our OPEN DOM AND SUB CHATS on SUNDAY and THURSDAY from 7pm. We have two ...
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Weekly Events week beginning 24/07/17

The OPEN DOM AND SUB CHATS this week will take place on SUNDAY and THURSDAY from 7pm. We had two ...
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Weekly Discussion Thread wb 24/07/17

What do you use for toy storage? ...
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New Event for this Week

As an addition to the calendar for this week, we would like to let you know about a second Dom ...
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SafeworD/s Events week beginning 17/07/17

As usual, the OPEN DOM AND SUB CHATS this week will take place on MONDAY and THURSDAY from 7pm. As ...
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Weekly Discussion Thread w/b 17/07/17

Who in your vanilla life knows about your D/s and what was their reaction? ...
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Introducing The SafeworD/s Club Forums

We are really pleased that so far we have had lots of members come along to support the chats. They ...
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SafeworD/s Events week beginning 10/07/17

As usual, the OPEN DOM AND SUB CHATS this week will take place on MONDAY and THURSDAY from 7pm. We ...
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SafeworD/s Events Week beginning 03/07/17

This week we continue with the OPEN DOM AND SUB CHATS on MONDAY and THURSDAY from 7pm. Although we will ...
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Little Party

Attention all littles out there. I wanted to ask you to please support to my friends who have kindly agreed ...
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SafeworD/s Events Week beginning 26/06/17

This week is a busy week at The SafeworD/s Club. Not only will we have our regular open Dom and ...
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Come and Join Us

Please drop in and say hello: Mondays and Thursdays from 7pm until late ...
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Next Event

Please join us tomorrow for the first of our open chat evenings where Dominants and submissives can meet, talk and ...
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Thank you

We just wanted to say a huge thank you to all those of you who made it to stop by ...
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Opening Night

Thank you to all of you who have shown an interest in the club so far, and to those of ...
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Welcome

The SafeworD/s Club is now open for business so please register and have a look around. You will find details ...
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