orgasms - the icing on my cake

The Icing on My Cake

In our early years I would say that orgasms were few and far between. Not through lack of opportunity as we’ve always had lots of sex, it’s just that I didn’t orgasm every time. I’m sure I read or watched somewhere that not all women orgasm. Luckily for me it wasn’t an issue for me […]

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Suspension - ceiling mount

Ceiling Mount – Just Hanging Out!

I have been interested in having a suspension point in the bedroom for sometime now. I was envious of those who managed to get their bedrooms ‘pimped’ for play, and hoped I would one day be able to rig something up! As luck would have it I saw on line a ceiling mount for exercise […]

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tell me about vulnerability - being vulnerable

Knowledge is Power

I am a private person. I wouldn’t like to be seen as vulnerable or on the flip side, as some sort of warrior princess hero thing. I like to blend in with a crowd, not one for attention (she says putting things into words for others to read haha). I think it would be fair […]

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submission and I

Submission and I

I had a little fantasy in my little box, locked away until….. you guessed it, ‘Fifty Shades of Grey’. I’ve never been a lover of books but started to read a lot more. I couldn’t get enough of them. Throw in a life changing event that made me think ‘fuck it life is too short’, […]

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Porn To Be Wild

Trying to prise apart the rain soaked and bloated pages of a discarded copy of Playboy was my first real challenge with porn.  There was always a copy of some magazine or other found in the large overgrown field at the rear of my childhood house.  In addition to the traditional men’s magazine of Playboy, […]

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emotional needs

Meeting Emotional Needs and Daring Greatly

Well, this week love is in the air and with the approach of Valentines Day, romance is on the agenda. For many there is a focus on gifts, and on the sexy and spicy aspects of relationships, but without feeling supported on an emotional level, many of the grander gestures will fall flat. Being in […]

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Accessories and Mindset - image from Bijoux Indescrits

Accessories and Mindset

The theme for our topic chat this week is accessories and mindset. This really goes further than just thinking about what we wear as part of play to tapping in to how certain accessories can make us feel. Sometimes certain things will bring with them a particular memory and trigger a certain feeling based on […]

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tell me about vulnerability - being vulnerable

Tell Me About …

The SafeworD/s Club is proud to present ….. our newest project, ‘Tell Me About … Dominance and submission“. First we had the chat, then we had the forums, the we had the blog and NOW we have a writing prompt! Ok so why start a writing prompt? There are lots of amazing writing prompts and […]

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I’m A Changing Man

There are people of various genders who have the role of dominant in their relationship, and find it something that is naturally a good fit. Equally there are many that strive to be that type of  person and find it harder than others, and yet they continue to try hard. It’s good to have aims, […]

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The Queen Bee – Review by submissy

The Queen Bee by Hot Octopuss describes itself as ‘a powerful next-generation clitoral stimulator’. As those of you who read my blog regularly will know, clit stimulation is really my thing, so I was keen to try out a toy which claimed it could provide ‘a unique and intense experience’. I sometimes feel a bit […]

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