9 Positions of Submission

In one of the early blog posts on submissy I wrote about the fact that HisLordship asked me to practice 9 positions of submission. What we did was to use one a week and I would get myself into position each evening before bed. He would then tweak and alter my position until it was to his liking. […]

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Setting Limits

When we first started out, HisLordship and I looked over a limits list together.  It is really important in a D/s relationship that you are aware of what each other’s limits are.  The open communication you have together mean that it is usually not a difficult thing to discuss and it can actually be a […]

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Hello Yellow

Tomorrow is World Metal Health day so I wanted to take a minute just to raise awareness for that.  At work we are wearing a ‘touch of yellow’ in order to highlight this as there are growing numbers of young people in schools who are managing with mental health issues.  Since joining the wonderful world […]

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The Power Exchange

The power exchange that takes place in our D/s relationship is a key part of what keeps our dynamic alive, but it is not something which is easy to explain. I imagine that those in similar relationships can understand the significant part it plays, but for those who aren’t, or who are just starting out, […]

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Communication and D/s

Communication has been the key in helping us to build and maintain our D/s dynamic. For us, the foundations are love, trust, respect, honesty and open communication, but really we have found that the communication is the glue that holds the rest together. When we stop communicating well, or openly, the other elements seem to […]

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Trust

Trust is vital in any relationship.  It is one of the cornerstones and without it the relationship will soon start to crumble.  In a relationship based on Domination and submission, trust is equally important, but unlike many other relationships, it is tested on an everyday basis, for only within an environment of complete trust, are […]

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The SWC Events week beginning 04/09/17

The OPEN DOM AND SUB CHATS this week will take place on SUNDAY and THURSDAY from 7pm as usual.     On TUESDAY the topic for our focussed TOPIC CHAT will be IMPACT TOYS & TECHNIQUES. Following on from our previous chat on impact play, we have made some additional swinging space to look at the toys themselves and the […]

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Sub Drop

Recently we had a Topic Chat about sub drop and Dom drop which was quite interesting so I thought that I would  follow it up with a post about it. Drop (sometimes called sub drop or Dom drop) is an experience with characteristics which can be similar to depression or withdrawal. It occurs after an intense […]

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The SWC Events week beginning 28/08/17

  As usual we will have our OPEN DOM AND SUB CHATS on SUNDAY and THURSDAY from 7pm.     We have two TOPIC CHATS for you again this week.   On TUESDAY the topic will be on IMPACT PLAY. Please join us for this week’s chat on impact play – from crops to paddles to canes to ……., we will be […]

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And next, here comes the Blog

Just over two months ago, HisLordship and I opened the virtual doors of The SafeworD/s Club.  The idea behind the site was to provide a safe and friendly place for Dominants and submissives to come along, meet others, and chat. Our thinking was that we wanted to be able to provide somewhere for people to […]

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Weekly Events week beginning 07/08/17

The OPEN DOM AND SUB CHATS this week will take place on SUNDAY and THURSDAY from 7pm as usual.     On TUESDAY the topic for our focussed TOPIC CHAT will be ANAL PLAY. Please join us this week for some anal chat; getting started, anal toys and anal sex. Let’s bare all and open up for our anal chat […]

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