Respect the Rules

Rules are pretty key to our relationship, although even without that I am a person who likes to have rules to follow. I suppose that is why a D/s marriage works so well for me as having rules and structure makes me feel safe. It makes sense of things and makes me feel as though […]

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Service

I have always said that I am not a ‘service sub’. My evidence for this has been the fact that I don’t particularly like doing chores (it certainly doesn’t turn me on) and that I complete household tasks as and when required and because they need to be done, so it has never really been […]

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The Doxy

I posted this on my own blog in November 2016 so it is certainly not new. When I wrote the review on the Ruby Glow today I realised that I had never posted it here and thought it might be good for reference. For information we are still going strong with the Doxy and it […]

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Ruby Glow Review

The Ruby Glow is a “dual-action vibrator and intimate massager.” According to Rocks Off who make the toy, when you try it “you will understand what makes it an exhilarating hands-free ride. It is a saddle-style, non-penetrative clitoral vibrator which can be used even when fully clothed. Shopping online, working from home, and reading erotica […]

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Emotional Masochism

I have always had a good pain threshold. Pain was always something that I could manage and make work for me so I probably would have said back in the vanilla world that I was a masochist, or at the very least, masochistic.  When we started D/s I was able to explore my relationship with […]

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Once Upon a Time

  Story-lines and narratives can be a useful part of play, whether this is sexual or non-sexual. In it’s simplest form this may include playing games together where you use your imagination. For example when HL and I are out and about sometimes we make up details and stories about the people we meet, their […]

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Finding a Community

Sometimes you just get one of those overwhelming feelings that what you have done is right. That is it has all come together and it is what you wanted it to be. That happened yesterday for me when we held the chat for Emily. As soon as news spread, people began to log on and […]

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Elust 105

Photo courtesy of Mrs Fever Welcome to Elust 105– The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at Elust. Want to be included in Elust #106 Start with the rules, […]

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Inside Eroticon

A few of my fellow bloggers have asked me to write about my experience at Eroticon, ‘a weekend of learning, socialising and fun for sex bloggers, erotica writers and erotic creatives’. I had never really considered myself to be in any of these categories so I was a little worried that I wouldn’t fit in but […]

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SWC Update!

When we set up the site we wanted to host the topic chats, which are always well supported, but we also wanted to have a place for members to come and chat about other aspects of D/s with like-minded people. In order for the open chat to work on a new site we thought that […]

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Consensual Non-Consent

This is a post that I wrote last year and posted on submissybut it seemed to fit with the ones on consent and on roleplay which were posted here already.   Sir and I have talked for a while about trying some ‘resistance play’. We both like the idea of a bit of a struggle and […]

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Roleplay

We recently had a chat at The SafeworD/s Club about Roleplay. In my preamble to the topic I described roleplay as the marmite of BDSM as people either seem to love or to hate it. It turned out that most of us who attended the chat were fans, although we’d all had some good, as […]

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Consent

Consent is a serious topic and it is a complicated and contentious area in BDSM. For us consent is always present unless a safe word is used, but in reality Sir would never ask me to do something that I didn’t want to. The level of trust we have is huge and it means that […]

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Consent, Safety and Aftercare

In the relationship we have, consent is taken as a given.  This is because we trust each other and communicate fully with one another.  We have discussed limits, both hard and soft, and we make sure that we revisit these often.  We talk after each scene or play session and will go over what worked well […]

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Bottoms up to Anal Sex

Anal play is something that I have posted about a bit on submissy but as anal sex was the prompt for Kink of the Week I thought that I would add my thoughts here too. Anal was something that I had thought about before HisLordship, but had never been with anyone who had suggested it, so […]

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Happy New Year

As 2017 draws to a close, we wanted to thank you all very much for your continued support with The SafeworD/s Club. It was always our intention that this should be a community which was defined by the members and you have all helped in establishing a place which is welcoming, inclusive and supportive. It […]

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SWC Book Group

We are pleased to announce the arrival of our brand new SWC Book Group. Please CLICK HERE to join the group and then we will keep you up-to-date via email about what is going on.   Details of book chats and discussion threads can be found on OUR FORUM where you can also get involved by joining […]

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