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Author: Missy (Founder)

Lifestyle submissive - happily married and monogamous to my Dominant, HisLordship.
Sustaining a D/s dynamic ~ finding what works best for you
Building a D/s Dynamic

Sustaining a D/s dynamic ~ finding what works best for you

11/04/202211/04/2022 Missy (Founder)

Establishing a D/s dynamic It can be quite overwhelming when you start out to add D/s to an existing relationship. I know that when we

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9 Popular Positions of submission for you to try
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9 Popular Positions of submission for you to try

10/04/202210/04/2022 Missy (Founder)

In one of the early blog posts on submissy I wrote about the fact that HisLordship asked me to practice 9 positions of submission. What we did

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The lube we love ~ stick around and read on
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The lube we love ~ stick around and read on

05/04/202205/04/2022 Missy (Founder)

Although in some corners of our still very vanilla world lube might be viewed as a shameful product, bought by people who are past their

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Things you should know about Erotic Humiliation
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Things you should know about Erotic Humiliation

04/01/202204/04/2022 Missy (Founder)

Getting started with erotic humiliation Erotic humiliation is a difficult thing to discuss and explain because what humiliates one person erotically, won’t necessarily have an

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Keeping Connected at Christmas ~ Advent Calendar 2021
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Keeping Connected at Christmas ~ Advent Calendar 2021

29/11/202129/11/2021 Missy (Founder)

Christmas can be a hard time to feel connected as it just seems to be so busy for many of us. Whether we are busy

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A Quick Guide to Getting Started with Impact Play
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A Quick Guide to Getting Started with Impact Play

12/11/202104/04/2022 Missy (Founder)

Before we get started, what is impact play? Impact play is when one person is hit or struck by another person for the sexual gratification

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The importance of effective communication in a D/s relationship
Living a D/s Lifestyle

The importance of effective communication in a D/s relationship

31/10/202103/04/2022 Missy (Founder)

Effective communication is one of the foundations of a Dominant submissive relationship. Actually, effective communication is one of the foundations of any healthy relationship, but

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A little bit of a chat update
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A little bit of a chat update

10/10/202113/10/2021 Missy (Founder)

I wanted to share with you a bit of a chat update. This past year we have been so pleased to see the number of

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Focus Questions for working on Dominant submissive foundations
A Dom Sub Workbook

Focus Questions for working on Dominant submissive foundations

08/08/202108/08/2021 Missy (Founder)

This post is part of our Dom sub workbook and involves using focus questions to look more closely at the foundations of your D/s. If you are

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What you need to know about Middles
Living a D/s Lifestyle

What you need to know about Middles

01/08/202104/04/2022 Missy (Founder)

I started a forum thread about middles which you can find here. It seemed that being a middle was something that lots of people weren’t

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Choosing your names and honorifics in a Dominant submissive relationship
Building a D/s Dynamic

Choosing your names and honorifics in a Dominant submissive relationship

30/07/202104/04/2022 Missy (Founder)

Choosing your names and deciding which honorifics to use is a topic which comes up quite a bit with those who are new to the

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Addicted to Love ~ the truth about subfrenzy
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Addicted to Love ~ the truth about subfrenzy

13/07/202104/04/2022 Missy (Founder)

Many new submissives experience subfrenzy without knowing anything about it. Although subfrenzy is something discussed in most BDSM circles, the can be a scarcity of

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What you need to know about Electroplay
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What you need to know about Electroplay

10/07/202104/04/2022 Missy (Founder)

Electroplay is something that we enjoy and through chats on the topic, we have managed to pique the interest of some of the other members

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The Sohimi App Control Clit Sucker ~ Review
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The Sohimi App Control Clit Sucker ~ Review

19/06/202119/06/2021 Missy (Founder)

I am always on the search for a good clit stimulator. I have some of the sucker kind and find they work well for me,

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A self care focus for your D/s relationship
Living a D/s Lifestyle

A self care focus for your D/s relationship

26/05/202126/05/2021 Missy (Founder)

The topic for wicked wednesday this time is self care. I have written about Why D/s helps with my self care over on Submissy but

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Starting out with BDSM Safety
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Starting out with BDSM Safety

16/05/202104/04/2022 Missy (Founder)

BDSM can involve placing yourself in a vulnerable position, both physically and emotionally, so it goes without saying that safety will be on your mind.

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How to Master Orgasm Control
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How to Master Orgasm Control

15/04/202116/04/2021 Missy (Founder)

I realised that we didn’t have a post about orgasm control so thought it would be an idea to write one. As always, there is

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So you want to try rope play?
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So you want to try rope play?

24/01/202124/01/2021 Missy (Founder)

Rope play is the topic for Tell Me About this week and I realised we didn’t have a post about it on our blog so

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Focus questions for working on Dominant submissive Mindset
A Dom Sub Workbook

Focus questions for working on Dominant submissive Mindset

18/01/202118/01/2021 Missy (Founder)

This post is part of our Dom sub workbook and involves using focus questions to look more closely at Dominant submissive mindset. Mindset, accessing and

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How to access and maintain a Dominant or submissive Mindset
Building a D/s Dynamic

How to access and maintain a Dominant or submissive Mindset

18/01/202118/01/2021 Missy (Founder)

A mindset is a set of beliefs which affects how you think, feel and behave. People refer to having a fixed mindset where you can

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