Establishing a D/s dynamic It can be quite overwhelming when you start out to add D/s to an existing relationship. I know that when we
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Lifestyle submissive - happily married and monogamous to my Dominant, HisLordship.
9 Popular Positions of submission for you to try
In one of the early blog posts on submissy I wrote about the fact that HisLordship asked me to practice 9 positions of submission. What we did
The lube we love ~ stick around and read on
Although in some corners of our still very vanilla world lube might be viewed as a shameful product, bought by people who are past their
Things you should know about Erotic Humiliation
Getting started with erotic humiliation Erotic humiliation is a difficult thing to discuss and explain because what humiliates one person erotically, won’t necessarily have an
Keeping Connected at Christmas ~ Advent Calendar 2021
Christmas can be a hard time to feel connected as it just seems to be so busy for many of us. Whether we are busy
A Quick Guide to Getting Started with Impact Play
Before we get started, what is impact play? Impact play is when one person is hit or struck by another person for the sexual gratification
The importance of effective communication in a D/s relationship
Effective communication is one of the foundations of a Dominant submissive relationship. Actually, effective communication is one of the foundations of any healthy relationship, but
A little bit of a chat update
I wanted to share with you a bit of a chat update. This past year we have been so pleased to see the number of
Focus Questions for working on Dominant submissive foundations
This post is part of our Dom sub workbook and involves using focus questions to look more closely at the foundations of your D/s. If you are
What you need to know about Middles
I started a forum thread about middles which you can find here. It seemed that being a middle was something that lots of people weren’t
Choosing your names and honorifics in a Dominant submissive relationship
Choosing your names and deciding which honorifics to use is a topic which comes up quite a bit with those who are new to the
Addicted to Love ~ the truth about subfrenzy
Many new submissives experience subfrenzy without knowing anything about it. Although subfrenzy is something discussed in most BDSM circles, the can be a scarcity of
What you need to know about Electroplay
Electroplay is something that we enjoy and through chats on the topic, we have managed to pique the interest of some of the other members
The Sohimi App Control Clit Sucker ~ Review
I am always on the search for a good clit stimulator. I have some of the sucker kind and find they work well for me,
A self care focus for your D/s relationship
The topic for wicked wednesday this time is self care. I have written about Why D/s helps with my self care over on Submissy but
Starting out with BDSM Safety
BDSM can involve placing yourself in a vulnerable position, both physically and emotionally, so it goes without saying that safety will be on your mind.
How to Master Orgasm Control
I realised that we didn’t have a post about orgasm control so thought it would be an idea to write one. As always, there is
So you want to try rope play?
Rope play is the topic for Tell Me About this week and I realised we didn’t have a post about it on our blog so
Focus questions for working on Dominant submissive Mindset
This post is part of our Dom sub workbook and involves using focus questions to look more closely at Dominant submissive mindset. Mindset, accessing and
How to access and maintain a Dominant or submissive Mindset
A mindset is a set of beliefs which affects how you think, feel and behave. People refer to having a fixed mindset where you can