rituals

Rituals: the why the how and the what

Why we have rituals For most D/s couples, rituals are quite an important part of what they do. Although they are often the small things, an action, a word, a deed, they can help to keep the right mindset for both of you. They do this by reinforcing the power exchange and essentially highlighting the […]

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beginner's guide to roleplay

A Beginner’s Guide to Roleplay

Roleplay within a BDSM context can be exciting for some and daunting for others, so we thought it would be a good idea to put together some ideas which could form a bit of a beginner’s guide to roleplay. Roleplay is when you act out or perform the part of a person or character.  In […]

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emotional needs

Meeting Emotional Needs and Daring Greatly

Well, this week love is in the air and with the approach of Valentines Day, romance is on the agenda. For many there is a focus on gifts, and on the sexy and spicy aspects of relationships, but without feeling supported on an emotional level, many of the grander gestures will fall flat. Being in […]

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Accessories and Mindset - image from Bijoux Indescrits

Accessories and Mindset

The theme for our topic chat this week is accessories and mindset. This really goes further than just thinking about what we wear as part of play to tapping in to how certain accessories can make us feel. Sometimes certain things will bring with them a particular memory and trigger a certain feeling based on […]

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Tell Me About …

The SafeworD/s Club is proud to present ….. our newest project, ‘Tell Me About … Dominance and submission“. First we had the chat, then we had the forums, the we had the blog and NOW we have a writing prompt! Ok so why start a writing prompt? There are lots of amazing writing prompts and […]

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The Queen Bee – Review by submissy

The Queen Bee by Hot Octopuss describes itself as ‘a powerful next-generation clitoral stimulator’. As those of you who read my blog regularly will know, clit stimulation is really my thing, so I was keen to try out a toy which claimed it could provide ‘a unique and intense experience’. I sometimes feel a bit […]

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Review, Reflection and Resolutions

Thank You What with all the festive fun, we are a little bit later than intended in wishing you all a very happy new year. With that obviously comes the hope of a really good 2019 to one and all and also a good opportunity for review and reflection. It has been busy for us […]

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Surviving the Holidays

  We thought that it would be a good idea to do a collaborative post for this topic as everyone manages things a little differently. So here goes for our top tips:     PurpleSole Christmas day will be at my in-laws so here are some fun tips for maintaining the dynamic when in the […]

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Life is a game of give and take

Our theme this week is ‘festive fun’ so it seemed to make sense to think about giving. There is a huge focus on giving during the festive period and it is also a key part of any D/s relationship – giving is for life not just for Christmas as they say and that certainly works […]

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