Before we get started, what is impact play? Impact play is when one person is hit or struck by another person for the sexual gratification of either or both. Spanking…
The importance of effective communication in a D/s relationship
Effective communication is one of the foundations of a Dominant submissive relationship. Actually, effective communication is one of the foundations of any healthy relationship, but it is even more important…
A little bit of a chat update
I wanted to share with you a bit of a chat update. This past year we have been so pleased to see the number of chats we host each week…
Focus Questions for working on Dominant submissive foundations
This post is part of our Dom sub workbook and involves using focus questions to look more closely at the foundations of your D/s. If you are starting out in a D/s…
What you need to know about Middles
I started a forum thread about middles which you can find here. It seemed that being a middle was something that lots of people weren’t sure about as middles are…
Choosing your names and honorifics in a Dominant submissive relationship
Choosing your names and deciding which honorifics to use is a topic which comes up quite a bit with those who are new to the lifestyle. As with many things,…
Addicted to Love ~ the truth about subfrenzy
Many new submissives experience subfrenzy without knowing anything about it. Although subfrenzy is something discussed in most BDSM circles, the can be a scarcity of information online to help understand…
What you need to know about Electroplay
Electroplay is something that we enjoy and through chats on the topic, we have managed to pique the interest of some of the other members who have also now tried…
The Sohimi App Control Clit Sucker ~ Review
I am always on the search for a good clit stimulator. I have some of the sucker kind and find they work well for me, especially when I use them…
A self care focus for your D/s relationship
The topic for wicked wednesday this time is self care. I have written about Why D/s helps with my self care over on Submissy but I thought this time I…
Starting out with BDSM Safety
BDSM can involve placing yourself in a vulnerable position, both physically and emotionally, so it goes without saying that safety will be on your mind. Whether you are Dominant or…
How to Master Orgasm Control
I realised that we didn’t have a post about orgasm control so thought it would be an idea to write one. As always, there is no wrong or right so…
So you want to try rope play?
Rope play is the topic for Tell Me About this week and I realised we didn’t have a post about it on our blog so wanted to put something together….
Focus questions for working on Dominant submissive Mindset
This post is part of our Dom sub workbook and involves using focus questions to look more closely at Dominant submissive mindset. Mindset, accessing and maintaining it, was one of…
How to access and maintain a Dominant or submissive Mindset
A mindset is a set of beliefs which affects how you think, feel and behave. People refer to having a fixed mindset where you can often be set in your…
Setting goals for D/s
So welcome to the New Year and with that comes the thought of what we want to get from it in a variety of ways. For HL and I this…
The SWC Kinky Community Advent Calendar
For the last three years I have completed some sort of D/s Advent Calendar. If you are interested, you can find the details here, but essentially they were about giving…
Creating a D/s Contract
The first thing I want to say is that you don’t need a D/s contract. This site is not somewhere that we tout the one true way of D/s relationships…
Limits and Boundaries
In relationships, knowing your partner’s limits and boundaries is essential. If you don’t know what they are then you can’t observe them. Neither can you push them. In a D/s…