The topic for wicked wednesday this time is self care. I have written about Why D/s helps with my self care over on Submissy but I thought this time I would take a different approach and apply the principles to our D/s relationship. Applying self care principles to a D/s relationship Self care is “a […]
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BDSM can involve placing yourself in a vulnerable position, both physically and emotionally, so it goes without saying that safety will be on your mind. Whether you are Dominant or submissive, you are taking risks and you need to know and feel that this will be safe for you. Most BDSM play involves some risk […]
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I realised that we didn’t have a post about orgasm control so thought it would be an idea to write one. As always, there is no wrong or right so these are just suggestions about what you might want to try which are based on my own experience. What is Orgasm Control? Orgasm control is […]
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Rope play is the topic for Tell Me About this week and I realised we didn’t have a post about it on our blog so wanted to put something together. What I have done is to try to collect some resources by way of advice and instruction as there is quite a lot out there […]
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This post is part of our Dom sub workbook and involves using focus questions to look more closely at Dominant submissive mindset. Mindset, accessing and maintaining it, was one of the areas that came up following the reflection we did as part of Setting goals for D/s. It was something that we both wanted to […]
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A mindset is a set of beliefs which affects how you think, feel and behave. People refer to having a fixed mindset where you can often be set in your opinions, or a growth mindset where you are more open to change. There has been a lot of work done around mindsets in general terms […]
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So welcome to the New Year and with that comes the thought of what we want to get from it in a variety of ways. For HL and I this involves thinking about personal goals and achievements but also ones for the site and for our D/s. This post falls into the latter category and […]
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