subfrenzy

Addicted to Love ~ the truth about subfrenzy

Many new submissives experience subfrenzy without knowing anything about it. Although subfrenzy is something discussed in most BDSM circles, the can be a scarcity of information online to help understand how it can appear when D/s is introduced into a long term relationship. Whether you are in a play type dynamic or a D/s lifestyle, […]

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D/s safety

Starting out with BDSM Safety

BDSM can involve placing yourself in a vulnerable position, both physically and emotionally, so it goes without saying that safety will be on your mind. Whether you are Dominant or submissive, you are taking risks and you need to know and feel that this will be safe for you. Most BDSM play involves some risk […]

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orgasm control

How to Master Orgasm Control

I realised that we didn’t have a post about orgasm control so thought it would be an idea to write one. As always, there is no wrong or right so these are just suggestions about what you might want to try which are based on my own experience. What is Orgasm Control? Orgasm control is […]

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Rope Play

So you want to try rope play?

Rope play is the topic for Tell Me About this week and I realised we didn’t have a post about it on our blog so wanted to put something together. What I have done is to try to collect some resources by way of advice and instruction as there is quite a lot out there […]

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Setting goals for D/s

Setting goals for D/s

So welcome to the New Year and with that comes the thought of what we want to get from it in a variety of ways. For HL and I this involves thinking about personal goals and achievements but also ones for the site and for our D/s. This post falls into the latter category and […]

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Advent Calendar

The SWC Kinky Community Advent Calendar

For the last three years I have completed some sort of D/s Advent Calendar. If you are interested, you can find the details here, but essentially they were about giving to HL, celebrating our dynamic, and doing something nice for each other in the run-up to Christmas. This year has been so different for everyone […]

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Creating a D/s contract

Creating a D/s Contract

The first thing I want to say is that you don’t need a D/s contract. This site is not somewhere that we tout the one true way of D/s relationships so whenever I write an instructional piece I always shudder at the thought that someone might think that this is a how to guide. The […]

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Intimacy

Intimacy

What is Intimacy? Intimacy is a feeling of knowing another person deeply and feeling deeply known by them. It is created over time and comes from a deep connection on a number of levels. There are different types of intimacy, including physical, emotional, experiential and intellectual. Often people assume that intimacy is about a sexual […]

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limits and boundaries

Limits and Boundaries

In relationships, knowing your partner’s limits and boundaries is essential. If you don’t know what they are then you can’t observe them. Neither can you push them. In a D/s relationship this is even more important. Observing limits and boundaries is part of building trust in the other person. So is communicating around your own […]

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journaling

Journaling

As a pastime, journaling seems it seems to have undergone a surge in popularity in recent years, with people turning to journals as a response to a busy and over-committed life where they need to take time out for themselves to reconnect and organise the many demands. It can be a helpful way to de-clutter […]

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resets

Resets – what, why and how

What is a reset? I am not sure if resets are things which exist formally in D/s relationships or if they are something we have made up, but if it isn’t a thing then it should be because it is quite important. It was only when I was thinking about it for the chat we held […]

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Book Group

The Book Group Is Back

We are delighted to announce that The SafeworD/s Club Book Group is back. New and improved and starting from the 25th June, monthly book discussions will commence! To find out more about how to get involved and the format the book club will take, please read on. Your Host The SWC Book Group will be […]

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