Tools to Track Service

When i consider the word servant, honestly a big part of me shrinks away in disgust. i think about the historic significance of servitude… it wasn’t really fair in a lot of ways. From what i have learned from history books, servitude ranged from slavery to employment to indentured servitude. In a lot of cases, […]

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Self Control Chat Notes

These notes were prepared for the Monday night topic chat at The SafeworD/s Club. Join us next Monday to discuss Having a Servant Attitude! This weeks theme is “All Tied Up”, so Lars and i decided to start by considering being restrained and in control of ourselves first and foremost. We prepared the following questions to […]

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DIY Bed Restraint System

When we first started exploring bondage, which was pretty early on for us, like before we moved in together, Daddy purchased some poly rope from our local hardware store. When i say some, what i should really say is that He bought oodles- 150 feet to be exact. He cut it into lengths and used […]

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The Risks of Knowing an Expert

When we first joined online communities for BDSM lifestyles, we were excited. Excited to the point that we both had a bit of frenzy. So many people talked about so many things, and we wanted to try it all. We have made many friends over the years who have felt the same way. And frenzy […]

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Kissing the frog

  Sometimes life feels like a fairy tale. Everything is going your way, you are with the love of your life, nothing could be better. And sometimes you have a wart covered frog in your face, belching at you while it chomps on flies. Such is the way of life. So what do you do […]

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Red Flags in Online Relationships

When you initially go online to meet new people, it is easy to get sucked into the belief that everyone wants to be nice, and is generally good. This is a mistake- here is why:   -Possibility of ID theft -Possibility of catfishing -Possibility of blackmail or otherwise personally harmful incidence -Invasion of privacy or […]

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Non-sexual Play

When i think about vanilla life, just having general relationships outside of kink, i think about how important it is to laugh. i mean, if it isn’t fun, or at least minimally enjoyable, why engage? This leads me to the topic of nonsexual play. i am going to write about it specifically for romantic relationships, […]

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Finding and defining your little

Who is your little self? In the book The Big Book For Littles, the author Penny Barber lists a few pages of questions, with the invitation to blog about them. The questions are designed to help you identify and explain your little side, to help you, your Big, and your friends understand you. When i […]

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Pervertable Chat Notes

Hello! The following post contains discussion points from the chat hosted at The Safeword/s Club. Join us for our next chat, on Monday, July 30, at 9:30 pm EDT to discuss Rules! These notes are the opinions of Lars and slars of Married and Owned, and the participants of the chat, and do not reflect […]

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