One of the key success factors of any relationship is effective communication. I know for sure over the years that my sub (Missy) has internally asked herself, how do I…
THANK YOU FOR YOUR SUPPORT
It is hard to believe that missy and I have been running the SafeworD/s Club for nearly 5 years. When I think back to the one- or two-page blog we…
Layering Communication for a Successful Scene
Layering communication so that you reveal instructions one by one allows you to lead he scene and take your partner with you, but this is not something that seems to…
Impact Play
I tend to think that impact play is one of the first things that people think of when conjuring up images of BDSM. There might be some black leather or…
Review – Tongue Mermaid Remote Sex Toy
First impressions We loved the colour! That may sound a bit basic, however, a number of sex toys we have used over the years have had quite deep vivid colours…
Review – Bestvibe ‘Blow Job Deep Squeeze Sucking Male Masturbator’
The Maturbator arrived in a matt black sturdy box giving a good impression from the start. The first thing you notice when picking up the box is the weight. It…
Journaling For Doms?
For subs? I guess that when the term journaling comes up in a D/s conversation most people would initially associate that with a submissive practice. That is perfectly understandable, as…
Discipline
I think most people understand the concept of discipline whereby training is designed to condition people or animals to behave in certain way. There is also the added element of…
Are You Being Served?
The TellMeAbout prompt this time around is Service. Missy has written a very personal piece on the subject (here) and in it self is another way-marker for me to see…
Lockdown..still.
These are unprecedented times without doubt. If you are reading this in 2040 maybe the financial impact of Covid-19 may be over. The unfortunate thing is that the new generation…
Wax Play- Naked Flame
For the purposes of full disclosure, I haven’t done a great deal of wax play, or I should say, we haven’t. It’s not that we have a great aversion to…
Self Reflection. Me?
One would assume that having been in a D/s relationship for a fair few years now I would have a good grasp on where I am with myself. Well the…
Review – Hot Octopuss Pulse III Duo
Our eyes first fell upon Hot Octopuss 2 years ago when attending Eroticon in London. Hot Octopuss were one of the sponsors and had a stall set up with a…
How To Install A Ceiling Mount
I have been interested in having a suspension point in the bedroom for sometime now. I was envious of those who managed to get their bedrooms ‘pimped’ for play, and…
Porn To Be Wild
Trying to prise apart the rain soaked and bloated pages of a discarded copy of Playboy was my first real challenge with porn. There was always a copy of some…
I’m A Changing Man
There are people of various genders who have the role of dominant in their relationship, and find it something that is naturally a good fit. Equally there are many that…
GodeMiche Offbeat Grande
Being someone who has never used a hand held ‘manual’ masturbator before I was definitely up for trying something new. Having seen Godemiche products online in bright colours I was…