Going straight to the point, with no dilly-dally, the two things that I thought I knew better than anything was Me and Missy. Now there are obviously millions of other things I thought I knew, however, they are trivial compared to us as a couple, and our ever developing lifestyle.
The headline thing I thought I knew (and didn’t) was the level kink we both shared when we first met.
For me, I have been drawn to all things sexually alternative for a long time albeit suppressed in my head. The key to that locked door was missy without a shadow of doubt. In terms of knowledge, I thought knew a lot about kink, and yet it was the tip of the iceberg. I had heard of BDSM in my teenage years from an LP inner sleeve found in my Adam and the Ants records. It was all very, interesting and is documented in one of my older posts That’s When I Knew I Had A Kink.
It was only when we got together and accepted that we were kinky did the flood gates open. I thought I knew what women wanted in a man, I was wrong! I thought I knew my own limits, wrong again. I thought I knew what I wanted from a relationship and how much I could love someone. Wrong, wrong and wrong again.
D/s has been a journey of discovery for me. It has supported us when things have been difficult and has been known to make things difficult as well at times. I now understand that it is just a different form of relationship with benefits! A bit like a game, it has it’s own rules, however, being a relationship between 2 or more people you can write your own rules to suit you.
So what about Missy and my misguided understanding of her I hear you cry? Oh boy, that’s Pandorra’s box being opened. She has initiated, embraced, grown, submitted, accepted and loved everything that we have experienced in D/s. I thought I knew her limits and fell short in that area and continue to fall short. She surprises me regulary which can be exciting and a scary at times. From someone who protected herself well against the thoughts in her head and managing body image issues, I knew so little. For those who have read her posts and seen her pictures, this is a person who I thought I knew and yet knew so little of her potential.
“If a little knowledge is dangerous, where is the man who has so much as to be out of danger?” ― Thomas Henry Huxley