This topic contains 2 replies, has 2 voices, and was last updated by  Precious 5 months ago.

  • Author
  • #4073


    Hello Everyone,

    I am a new sub, in fact havent started my training yet due to some unforeseen circumstances in my Captain’s and my life. My Captain is an experienced Dom but not “trained” in any formal way and describes himself as a “sensuous Daddy Dom”.  We have been learning and exploring together about what might work for both of us and he is really supportive of me. I am so grateful to have found him.

    Anyway, one of the things we have been talking about is contracts. We are exploring not only a sexual relationship but also a long term intimate relationship, which is so rich already having started out in a D/s dynamic that we were both seeking.

    My question to everyone here, since it seems that it is mostly couples on this site, is how important is a contract within a long term relationship? Do any of you have one and what does it look like? Would it be good for us to start out with one as we begin to explore our kink and a life together? Does anyone have any good examples they can share? I have looked around online and it seems the only thing I can find is a checklist sort of thing.

    Thanks for any help!


  • #4077

    Beth [MM]

    Hi Precious, and welcome.

    Some have contracts and some don’t. It’s really what appeals to you as a couple. If you like things listed in detail then you might like having a contract. It can also serve as a reminder for the things you agree to, limits, etc. The checklists can be nice because you can compare areas of interest and see  how your limits change over time. But a contract isn’t necessary. Starting simple and building slowly is the best way, IMO, with or without a contract. Most of the couples I know don’t have contracts, and my sir and I don’t. Sounds like a good conversation to have with your sir.

  • #4078


    Thanks Beth!

You must be logged in to reply to this topic.